After talking to my psychiatrist, K's therapist and e-mailing K's psychiatrist who is faculty at the Hospital where the Clinic is. They all agreed N needs to be evaluation'd. The School is *evaling* her, but they are not used to a kid like her and husband and I thing they don't really know what to do with her. She is academically fine and well behaved... just like K was. N is not showing the same signs that K did. She is so anxious and we realize that some of her issues are a result of K's violence and extreme rages. But N has had issues for a couple of years now. But just like K, we were told we were just looking for a problem. So the poor kid is: Spinning more picking her head, thinks she has sand in it... (not lice!LOL) wetting her bed more having nightmares coming into our bed multiple times a week clingy worried about everything scared of everything increase fear/ sensitivity to noise fear of school bathroom fear of wearing certain clothes to school (dress will go down toilet, shoe with ties or velcro may get rocks on them and she will have to ask for help) Will only wear pull up pants and slip on shoes for lunch I can't send her with anything that is difficult to open, she may have to ask for help. She works herself up with all of the what if's prior to school, does not want to go to school. but once at school she does OK, it is the building up of fears beforehand that is the problem. She is obsessing about weird things. At night she will start sobbing, "i don't want to have baby". "Mommy what if a Meteor hits us" Cluttering worse Is terrified of our outdoor fire pit has bolted from us when scared ran in terror The list goes on and on.... She has a cough the past 2 days and wet her bed last night. She did not sleep hardly at all. So she missed school yesterday and today. She is happy as a clam, playing happily by herself and watching TV cuddling with me. She loves quiet, predictable, non-chaotic. She loved her school in Idaho, Montessori, it was small, and a small private bathroom. So I called this clinic expecting to be on a wait list or at least 6 months out. I used K's psychiatrist's name. They had an opening next Wednesday! Day before Thanksgiving... I took it. Get it over with. I am so nervous. She is my baby. She is like a little fragile bird. If you raise your voice at her she acts like she is going to break. Yet she can be such a little PITA! Wish us luck and I will keep you all posted. by the way: this is the same psychiatric Hospital where we took K that had the horrible psychiatrist!!! But he is NOT involved in this clinic at all!!! K's current psychiatrist is on the faculty as well here and hates him!