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we had our first weekend visit in 5 months......
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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 69959" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>Tracey,</p><p></p><p>Yes, yes, yes. I do understand.</p><p></p><p>When my son came home, he couldn't have any friends over, as he really only had drug friends left. By the time he left for the Residential Treatment Center (RTC), he had even alienated all them.</p><p></p><p>The only people he saw while home on the weekend was his family, and his AA sponsor, who came and picked him up for meetings. After about his fourth visit home, the therapist from the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) suggested letting him drive himself to the AA meeting.</p><p></p><p>OMG. I had a reeeeeeeeeeeally hard time with that. Give him the car keys? Let him drive away? Are you kidding me?</p><p></p><p>I realize now that it was because we had to establish trust, a little at a time. His sponsor called us as soon as he arrived at the meeting, and called us when he left the first time. It was a very gradual thing.</p><p></p><p>I understand about eggshells. The hardest part for me was in not dredging up the past. Our son stole from us while drugging heavily for those six weeks. It took everything I could muster when he'd ask about something, to not say, "Yeah, well that was one of the items you stole and sold for drugs". The therapist was very clear about that to us - that you can't go backwards, only forward.</p><p></p><p>Sending many good thoughts that as he comes home more, he will be able to integrate back into the family as a contributing, rule abiding member of the family. It takes time for him and for you to get used to it.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 69959, member: 27"] Tracey, Yes, yes, yes. I do understand. When my son came home, he couldn't have any friends over, as he really only had drug friends left. By the time he left for the Residential Treatment Center (RTC), he had even alienated all them. The only people he saw while home on the weekend was his family, and his AA sponsor, who came and picked him up for meetings. After about his fourth visit home, the therapist from the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) suggested letting him drive himself to the AA meeting. OMG. I had a reeeeeeeeeeeally hard time with that. Give him the car keys? Let him drive away? Are you kidding me? I realize now that it was because we had to establish trust, a little at a time. His sponsor called us as soon as he arrived at the meeting, and called us when he left the first time. It was a very gradual thing. I understand about eggshells. The hardest part for me was in not dredging up the past. Our son stole from us while drugging heavily for those six weeks. It took everything I could muster when he'd ask about something, to not say, "Yeah, well that was one of the items you stole and sold for drugs". The therapist was very clear about that to us - that you can't go backwards, only forward. Sending many good thoughts that as he comes home more, he will be able to integrate back into the family as a contributing, rule abiding member of the family. It takes time for him and for you to get used to it. Hugs, Deb [/QUOTE]
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