The letters came today. August 2nd for a preliminary probation hearing and the 10th before our not so favorite judge. We have never had a preliminary hearing. She is charged with joy riding (felony), driving without a license, and leaving the scene. So they did listen to my son when he called to up the charges. She ran off last night because we confronted her about the missing $15.00 and the "skunk" smell which my husband said is MJ. She owned the money part but refused to own the MJ. She knows we forbid it in our home. Still have no idea where she is. She said she would be back and took a bag of clothes with her. We asked her to call and let us know she was ok. We cannot keep her from going-we have done everything and nothing works. What do I ask the court for? I do not want to enable but I do not think jail is the place for her this second and then who knows in the next second. She has spent 3 years out of society in RTCs (which are even more restrictive and emotionally draining than jail) and comes out worse every time. She is so sick with the PTSD-can't sleep well is triggered into major anxiety and the impulse issues are huge with the Borderline (BPD). She has been "sober" from sexual acting out for about 5 months but she still does other weird things like write to prisoners (its been awhile on this one since I caught her but who knows). I don't know the answer. I kind of wish she would be on major probation with drug testing, mandated going to school or at least job training, and following rules at home. At the hearing we will be asked to help them decide what is in her best interest (says this in the letter). My plan was to let go and let god-now I am doubting. Any advise? What would you do?