I'm adjusting armour for fight with sd and would like some input from others who have been there done that. The question is which route to take- mediation, state complaint, or straight to due process (is that the same as a state complaint?) I have scanned over IDEA and our state doe regs. The first recommendation was to try to deal with higher ups in the sd before moving to the state level. If I want more ground, I need to do something in the next two weeks because I could bring up a couple of violations made last year and there is a 1 year time limit for state complaints. I have a meeting scheduled with a higher up in sd for the 17th, I could still have paper work ready to file right after that meeting if I'm not satisfied with the outcome, and I won't be. Biggest issues are- 1) failing to properly implement IEP, 2) failing to have appropriate qualified personnel conduct FBA and BIP (last year), 3) encouragement by principal to teachers not to make efforts to implement IEP or consider difficult child's disabilities as being out of his control, 4) inconsistent and misleading statements by principal and teachers pertaining to difficult child's behavior, academic performance, and state of mind - which makes it impossible for me and his private treatment team to adjust things outside of school to help them, much less work with them. Pros & cons- 1) mediation- less cost, quicker, great answer if it works to get everyone on the same page and working together, but- from what I have read, there is no repercussion if school doesn't uphold their end of the agreement. If they won't appropriately abide by the IEP, why should I think they would uphold this agreement? 2) filing a complaint with state- does this do anything? a Special Education attny said the state would investigate, but then I read something that left me thinking that it can cause the retaliation from the school toward me and difficult child without awarding any real beneficial change to difficult child- or is this the road to due process anyway? 3) due process- very costly, and what happens if sd wins? 4) Give up and don't do anything- difficult child falls through cracks by having school change his grades to passing grades to keep him moving through, or, they find a way to just get him out of that school (they have been trying this already) 5) Move to another district- then start all over again because it probably won't be any better. Has anyone had any good solutions for their difficult child with any of these options?