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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 630636" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>The heart of this is that you love these people. Because she seemed shocked at the chill of your having declined the last minute invitation and then, immediately called to ask you for lunch, my take on it is that though she hurt you, that was never her intent. </p><p></p><p>Dress well, meet your friend determined to love yourselves through whatever this is. Tell her that you are hurt, and how that feels. True friendship requires honesty. There are going to be times, even between the closest friends, when something happens that we don't understand.</p><p></p><p>That is what I hear in your post.</p><p></p><p>That you do not understand. </p><p></p><p>After the luncheon, you will have time to think through what you know, and what you have heard.</p><p></p><p>Then, you can decide.</p><p></p><p>Give this close friendship the time it merits now, Nomad.</p><p></p><p>Know that I wish both yourself and your friend a warm, open, successful time, and that I hope you come away from this luncheon with your friendship not only intact, but deeper.</p><p></p><p>It is true that it takes more courage to stay the course, to give the other person the benefit of the doubt, to risk the vulnerability of telling someone they have hurt us. But, remember that song about having been a fool for lesser things?</p><p></p><p>I think a friendship of thirty years is definitely one of those things worth risking feeling a little foolish over.</p><p></p><p>I hope it works well for all of you, Nomad.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 630636, member: 17461"] The heart of this is that you love these people. Because she seemed shocked at the chill of your having declined the last minute invitation and then, immediately called to ask you for lunch, my take on it is that though she hurt you, that was never her intent. Dress well, meet your friend determined to love yourselves through whatever this is. Tell her that you are hurt, and how that feels. True friendship requires honesty. There are going to be times, even between the closest friends, when something happens that we don't understand. That is what I hear in your post. That you do not understand. After the luncheon, you will have time to think through what you know, and what you have heard. Then, you can decide. Give this close friendship the time it merits now, Nomad. Know that I wish both yourself and your friend a warm, open, successful time, and that I hope you come away from this luncheon with your friendship not only intact, but deeper. It is true that it takes more courage to stay the course, to give the other person the benefit of the doubt, to risk the vulnerability of telling someone they have hurt us. But, remember that song about having been a fool for lesser things? I think a friendship of thirty years is definitely one of those things worth risking feeling a little foolish over. I hope it works well for all of you, Nomad. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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