Hi Jean and welcome - I'm copying your post here to make sure the members see it. "I have a thirteen year old son and we were told that he has reactive attachment disorder. We are not sure how to handle this one plus he is ODD. Anyone have a child with this disorder? We are having a hard time getting him to accept conquences without running out of the house to avoid them. When he finally comes back in he still have to do the conquence. Is there away to keep him from running out of the house? Husband won't put dead bolt locks on the door because, when he is having a melt down he might brake the window to get out we don't known. He is home school but have the murturity of a nine year old. Please help! We do not want to put him in a home, we feel it is more ODD going on then any thing else. Jean" I probably have more questions than suggestions at this point. Has he been evaluated by a psychiatrist? Who gave him the diagnosis of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)? When was his most recent evaluation? Is he on any medication? Short of tackling my kid (which at this point would be useless - he's twice my wt and 6'3"), I've never figured out a way to keep him in the house. *But* every time he's run I've notified the police because he's "at risk". Fortunately, our police department has been very helpful at bringing him home in the past. What would happen if you let him run, but let him know in a calm moment beforehand that if he bolts due to a consequence, the consequence will be doubled (or whatever you think is appropriate)? Or, if you (like me) are concerned about his safety roaming the streets, do you think calling the police might be an option? Again, welcome and glad you found us!