Welcome to cap66

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by Kathy813, Jun 21, 2012.

  1. Kathy813

    Kathy813 Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Welcome to the SA forum of the CD board. I have started a new thread for you so we can get to know you. I think you have reason to worry about your son going off to college in the fall. In my experience, substance abuse was the reason my difficult child did not do well in college despite being very smart. Could you tell him that he has to prove himself in a community college before you will finance him going off to the big 10 school?

  2. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Welcome cap66 I'm sorry you have to be here but glad you found us.

    I know you are trying to keep peace in the house and prevent problems but your husband needs to be told. Both of you have struggled and overcome addiction issues so he should know how to deal with his reaction to this news If you keep this from your husband you are continuing the enabling dance that you both know so well. Your son will bank on the fact that you will hide his use from his dad and continue allowing him to smoke pot.

    I don't want to be discouraging but my daughter went away to college almost three years ago and we knew she was smoking pot and drinking. Of course you know what happened. She lasted two months before she was arrested on campus and eventually suspended for a semester and never went back. We are still paying off the tuition we lost from that experiment. Had I to do it all over I would not have sent her away to college. The way things are in colleges now the drug use and drinking is so prevalent that if he starts out there already using it will only escalate.

    I think you need to tell your husband and come up with a plan, and that should include absolutely no pot smoking in or around your house.