On sunday I picked katie up really early and we sat on the front porch and talked. I didn't have time to get into any "deep" stuff, so I focused more in the present and her money issues, lack of budgeting skills ect. That is the more pressing issue anyway. When M lost his job her disability for alex went back up to 700.00 per month. Her rent is 125, cable about the same. There was really no reason for her to have run out of money. And I almost blasted her with that. But I did happen to stop and think first. While I'm sure a portion of it did get wasted on stupid things, probably a large portion........The girl doesn't know how to cook at all. M claims to know how to cook, but he doesn't either. If it's not pre packaged, they don't have a clue what to do with it. Living in motel rooms for years upon years, you don't have any real opportunity to cook normal cooking. So I didn't blast her. Instead I explained that the more she could learn to cook from scratch the lower her food bill would be, and told her I'd be more than happy to teach her, even if it's talking her through cooking a meal over the phone. I've gotten rather good at that doing it for easy child and Nichole. She seems eager to learn the couponing. I've agreed to help her learn. But she has to buy her own sunday papers, cut her coupons and keep them organized. IF I happen to have ones I know I won't use and my coupon buddies won't use, but know she will.....I'll pass them on. Otherwise, no. I explained this is how easy child, nichole and I do it. Nichole is the only one who eats yogurt, she gets all the yogurt coupons. I've got the dogs.......I get dog stuff coupons. Nichole has the baby, she gets baby stuff coupons. And so on. But usually we don't share unless one of us has a ton of one we don't intend to buy much of and someone else needs it. Like Nichole due to bedrest hasn't been able to do the coupons. When she came down last weekend....krogers had a heck of a sale on cereal. Well, I'd already bought 14 boxes. easy child was picking up her 12. I still had 2 coupons left over and easy child had 2 so we gave them to Nichole who could then buy her 12. Know what I mean?? If katie had had money, we'd have split the extras between them. (but I gave her cereal that needed to be eaten soon....so evened out anyway) IF we can manage to get 3 people's shopping into my car, she can ride along to shop. Otherwise I've got to come up with another plan to get her out. Now that we probably won't have to take easy child's wheelchair it might be possible, once easy child's driving again it will be more possible. She listened to me last week and kept calling welfare non stop, sending M out to do paperwork or have it filled out whatever......called again monday and then yesterday it was corrected. She'll get 86.00 for the rest of this month and then back to her 400.00 next month. She's got some major learning to do.........to me 400.00 for food is a frimping FORTUNE......she made it sound like they were starving her. lol She wants to help us can so she can learn that too. She was very sociable and helpful sunday......taking the chair in and out of the car for me, which is great cuz after the 3rd store I'm ready to leave the darn thing behind. ugh I have all the kids school supplies. Only thing left is kayla's zippered binder and what I'm seeing them selling for.......teacher is gonna have to be happy with a normal one I got on sale or someone else is going to have to buy it. She's been super social. Sigh. I guess I'm going to have to push the social thing. If I don't keep it going.......she thinks I don't want any more to do with her and doesn't contact us. I have to wonder if M has to do with that.....but I suppose it could just be her too. So, for now we'll work with this and see where it leads. It shouldn't be long before I'll be able to have kayla over to start helping me with the flower garden too.