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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 673674" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Your mouth (fingers?) to God's ear. </p><p></p><p>I'm going to attempt to keep myself somewhat detached...I know that, if he has us to help them with bills, etc., he won't do things on his own. We learned that the hard way. Even yesterday afternoon he was saying he has friends near the new place and if it weren't raining he'd walk over there...to which the girlfriend said something like "You aren't just sitting around, we have things to put up!" He's a guy and couldn't care less about anything like whether things are orderly. </p><p></p><p>She was so sweet. Very excited that all we bought matched; gray, red and black shower curtain, gray rug, gray and red towels, etc. After all, it's her first place and she's a girl...a bit of a tom-boy...but still very much a girl. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Not sure what you mean, unless it's that he doesn't pretend to be anything he's not? If so, yes, he's definitely that. </p><p></p><p>girlfriend said to me yesterday, "You and your husband are just so <em>normal</em>, what happened to <ds>? He's just so <em>HIM</em>?" I told her I wish I knew...we had a talk about nature vs. nurture. We talked about his temper and how there's no talking him down when he's mad, you just leave him alone until he's over it. We talked a lot...</p><p></p><p>At least she seems to know what she's getting into.</p><p></p><p>I do find myself mentally micro-managing their lives...especially his. Having little conversations in my head about how he needs to call work, or getting fired; anticipating being asked for help or money or food...on and on and on. It's exhausting. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> I hope that now that they are moved, if I don't hear from them for a day or two, that will slow down. I hate when I start obsessing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 673674, member: 17309"] Your mouth (fingers?) to God's ear. I'm going to attempt to keep myself somewhat detached...I know that, if he has us to help them with bills, etc., he won't do things on his own. We learned that the hard way. Even yesterday afternoon he was saying he has friends near the new place and if it weren't raining he'd walk over there...to which the girlfriend said something like "You aren't just sitting around, we have things to put up!" He's a guy and couldn't care less about anything like whether things are orderly. She was so sweet. Very excited that all we bought matched; gray, red and black shower curtain, gray rug, gray and red towels, etc. After all, it's her first place and she's a girl...a bit of a tom-boy...but still very much a girl. Not sure what you mean, unless it's that he doesn't pretend to be anything he's not? If so, yes, he's definitely that. girlfriend said to me yesterday, "You and your husband are just so [I]normal[/I], what happened to <ds>? He's just so [I]HIM[/I]?" I told her I wish I knew...we had a talk about nature vs. nurture. We talked about his temper and how there's no talking him down when he's mad, you just leave him alone until he's over it. We talked a lot... At least she seems to know what she's getting into. I do find myself mentally micro-managing their lives...especially his. Having little conversations in my head about how he needs to call work, or getting fired; anticipating being asked for help or money or food...on and on and on. It's exhausting. :( I hope that now that they are moved, if I don't hear from them for a day or two, that will slow down. I hate when I start obsessing. [/QUOTE]
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