Laura, He was totally disrespectful saying you are out of his life BUT then you opened the door for him. You didn't need to let him in pay or UBER or let him sleep at your place. And facebook? Really? Why in the world do you need to be on your adult kids fb account? Because you want to see his posts? Because you give him money and want to see what he is doings. Solve the problem. DON't give him money! He isn't going to get his butt to SS of jobs and family services for assistance as long as he has you to wipe his butt.