difficult child is in jail. It took me so long to reply because i have been dealing with this since 7/4/09. And there is something new everyday. They picked up difficult child at his friends house on 7/9/09 at 9:30am. They were all asleep. One of the boys was picked up earlier that morning on something else. difficult child's hearing is 7/23. His bail is $15,000 cash, no %. I do not have that kind of money and even if I did I would not bail him out. He has called me and I told him I am not bailing him out. I told him I can not take his calls all the time also cuz they are collect and I can't afford it. Of course he got mad and I told him take it or leave it. I am staying as strong as I can be. He is in a jail about 1/2 hour away and I know he is ok. My mom on the other hand is not. It was her husband's guns that were taken. (my stepdad-the nicest person you could ever know) difficult child is calling here 4,5,6 times a night (they apparently can use the phone when ever they want) She keeps taking the calls even though they aren't about anything. difficult child is manipulating her with every step. ...get a lawyer-public defenders don't help, call this person call that person, get my bail, sell your car to get me out, it's horrible in here (I know its not, cuz after I told him I wasn't gonna do anything for him he talks to me fine) He is crazy when he talks to her. I told her to stop taking all the calls. All she has to do is hang up when she hears the recording but she won't. My stepfather called me this morning to see if I have talked to her and I told him I have. He said she will not speak to him. She wants him to drop the charges but he has no control over it. The county took over cuz difficult child admitted to taking the guns. I told her that too. I told her if she doesn't get control over this situation and put her foot down with difficult child she is gonna lose her husband. I don't know what to do. I told her so what if difficult child gets mad he will get over it, God he's in jail!!!! If she trys to get him out she might as well have given him that money when he was out to shoot up with cuz that what he will do. He has only been away from that stuff for 1 week and that is not enough time to be clean. Also beside the charges there he is still facing the "conspiracy to commit burlary with knowledge" in another township. As well as retail theft and and other charges we don't even know about yet. This is no where from being over yet. I spoke with my aunt who has been a great support for me (she has been thru the heroin with her daughter in the past-clean now for 9 months) She has been calling mom to help her thru this but I don't know what my mom might do. Even if she gets him out where will he go, he has no chance of living with her or here. I can't lose my other 2 sons and husband because of difficult child drugs. If he gets time and help we will all have to talk to see how to handle it but until then I can sleep at night knowing my son is not shooting dope. Signed, TOTALLY EXHAUSTED!!!!!!