He did make the niece I thought would cry...cry. They were downstars he wanted to watch one of the girls make this jewelry thing she got and the niece who always gets upset (she has serious temper issues) started bossing him around. He finally called her a b and she came upstairs crying. Told my sister and she went down and kicked Q out of the basement. I talked to Q later and he said she was being really mean and he knew he couldn't hurt her so he just called her that instead. Well, honestly I believe him, he already had his consequence so no point in lying and she is in a social skills group for being too bossy in school. I love her dearly but she is a mess, huge rages, kicking yelling etc. One of my sisters has in the past stayed with them on Christmas eve because she lived so far away. This year she lives just half a mile away so is happy to sleep in her bed with her cats and not have to sleep on a couch and be woken at 5 am. the kids said it would be not the same without her. she said but she will go over in the morning. My niece fell apart got mad stomped her feet, and to make it worse, her mom told our sister that she is going to have to pay for their therapy and take care of them when they are crabby all day tomorrow, so thinking she was kidding my sister said, well why not put them to bed on time so they are not so tired and the other sister got furious! She was serious that my sister should have to give up her nice bed to make her difficult child niece feel better. It is ok to say she is disappointed but honestly I would just say, I get it that you are sad but we need to respect auntie's decision. She so fed into the tantrum I was in shock. Yet this is the same kid who is the ONLY one who went with Q and taught him how to play a shared game on his ds, they were under the dining room table giggling playing the games etc. so cute. She really is a dear but she has such a temper. They do come down hard on Q, he accidentally sneezed by a few cookies on a plate and like three people yelled at him. My step mom has them pass the gifts out and then wanted them to take turns opening. I asked for them to not do that last year...just too hard. Or let him go first. but no the little girls had to go first, finallyq just dug in and they got so crabby. I said, you all know this is a set up. So jsut take pictures of him now instead. I couldn't take it anymore and they agreed it was ok. He was thrilled and said thank you to them and really was kind. He had several blurts and people got snarky about it as usual. But he never went off on my and never once got aggressive! (got two nascar shirts/sweatshirts). My step mom got a huge bonus this year and shared it with us, I can't believe it. It makes me be able to pay rent without an advance....Also gave us like 8 movie tickets, do you know how long it has been since we went to a movie? Q is not great at movies but does ok if we dont sit by eachother. We go to a sensory night where they have lower volume, dont turn the lights all the way off and people do talk and make noises because there are a lot of people with autism. I love it, so much less stress. They do it for the newest movies once a week. Well, tomorrow is my sister's house with my mom. It is less structured so hopefully we will be fine. He will have his galaxy player so will be preoccupied with that anyway. My sister does not have wi fi but I know how to make my phone into a hot spot. Merry Christmas, now it is time to just watch some Christmas shows and focus on the REAL Christmas!