Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Well, we're going 'somewhere'.............
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 622662" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Still over here practicing my silence and my open space policy. </p><p></p><p>I talked to my daughter last night and she was still in a pretty good frame of mind. She had a couple of moments of sadness about her cat and that she may in fact lose everything in this HUGE storage unit for lack of payment. In the tiny openings between her statements about her losses where I used to feel uncomfortable and/or have to hold myself back from making some kind of an offer or even having to respond at all.............I was simply silent. Then she would move on to something else. I wish I had known how to be silent a long time ago. </p><p></p><p>It reminds me of meditation, the space between thoughts, the moment between breaths.............the still point. </p><p></p><p>She and I got off the phone and I simply resumed my evening with my SO and my granddaughter, I didn't even mention I had spoken to her. There just isn't that jagged energy anymore. </p><p></p><p>She told me that some of her new "friends" have opted to be in jail to remove their probation charges in which case, apparently, once they get out, the record either drops to a misdemeanor or they are now done with their time. She has mentioned that to me twice so she must be thinking about doing that. I don't know. I don't ask any questions.</p><p></p><p>She continues to express gratitude towards me without any of the old barbs in her voice or the bitterness, she actually sounds light and comfortable. She likes working in the kitchen and talks a lot about that. The absence of anger and negativity is so profound to me that I almost can't wrap my head around it. </p><p></p><p>Of course, it could be as COM mentioned, that being in jail takes all the outside "stuff" away leaving them free of worry for the most part. I have no idea. </p><p></p><p>For me this is like a big vacation from that little nagging spot right there on top of my mind which has been occupied with my daughter for quite some time. It's gone now and perhaps it will be permanently gone, I don't know. </p><p></p><p>But, all things considered, it's all good.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 622662, member: 13542"] Still over here practicing my silence and my open space policy. I talked to my daughter last night and she was still in a pretty good frame of mind. She had a couple of moments of sadness about her cat and that she may in fact lose everything in this HUGE storage unit for lack of payment. In the tiny openings between her statements about her losses where I used to feel uncomfortable and/or have to hold myself back from making some kind of an offer or even having to respond at all.............I was simply silent. Then she would move on to something else. I wish I had known how to be silent a long time ago. It reminds me of meditation, the space between thoughts, the moment between breaths.............the still point. She and I got off the phone and I simply resumed my evening with my SO and my granddaughter, I didn't even mention I had spoken to her. There just isn't that jagged energy anymore. She told me that some of her new "friends" have opted to be in jail to remove their probation charges in which case, apparently, once they get out, the record either drops to a misdemeanor or they are now done with their time. She has mentioned that to me twice so she must be thinking about doing that. I don't know. I don't ask any questions. She continues to express gratitude towards me without any of the old barbs in her voice or the bitterness, she actually sounds light and comfortable. She likes working in the kitchen and talks a lot about that. The absence of anger and negativity is so profound to me that I almost can't wrap my head around it. Of course, it could be as COM mentioned, that being in jail takes all the outside "stuff" away leaving them free of worry for the most part. I have no idea. For me this is like a big vacation from that little nagging spot right there on top of my mind which has been occupied with my daughter for quite some time. It's gone now and perhaps it will be permanently gone, I don't know. But, all things considered, it's all good. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Well, we're going 'somewhere'.............
Top