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Went and did it to myself this time....
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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 32512" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi Mikey,</p><p>chiming in to agree with everyone else--you did nothing wrong! Your son reminds me so much of my dtr with the attitude--she was a master at making me feel guilty if I didn't trust her--I had no reason to trust her. Sure, she could do the right thing for a day or two and I was supposed to then give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she was now trustworthy! I still don't trust her and she knows it--I am very upfront about it. I told her as recently as a couple of days ago that because of the lack of trust and credibility on her part that I can't help her as much as I would like to. I am very matter-of-fact about it, it is what is is. I told her it will take a long time to build the trust if she is interested in doing it.</p><p></p><p>Also, in my state I had to know, by law, where my child was til age 18. I had to report her missing to the police if I did not know where she was so she got reported missing a lot. She didn't really care but I explained that if I didn't know where she was I would have to report her missing and eventually it would all catch up to her, which it did. You do have a responsibility to know where he is and his car was at someone else's house--why wouldn't you assume he was there? Why would you be thinking he was at home asleep with your history with him? I would not be apologetic at all, just matter of fact--"oh, I didn't know you were home." End of story.</p><p></p><p>Please don't beat yourself up over this--you actually did nothing wrong!!!!</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 32512, member: 3450"] Hi Mikey, chiming in to agree with everyone else--you did nothing wrong! Your son reminds me so much of my dtr with the attitude--she was a master at making me feel guilty if I didn't trust her--I had no reason to trust her. Sure, she could do the right thing for a day or two and I was supposed to then give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she was now trustworthy! I still don't trust her and she knows it--I am very upfront about it. I told her as recently as a couple of days ago that because of the lack of trust and credibility on her part that I can't help her as much as I would like to. I am very matter-of-fact about it, it is what is is. I told her it will take a long time to build the trust if she is interested in doing it. Also, in my state I had to know, by law, where my child was til age 18. I had to report her missing to the police if I did not know where she was so she got reported missing a lot. She didn't really care but I explained that if I didn't know where she was I would have to report her missing and eventually it would all catch up to her, which it did. You do have a responsibility to know where he is and his car was at someone else's house--why wouldn't you assume he was there? Why would you be thinking he was at home asleep with your history with him? I would not be apologetic at all, just matter of fact--"oh, I didn't know you were home." End of story. Please don't beat yourself up over this--you actually did nothing wrong!!!! Jane [/QUOTE]
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