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Went and did it to myself this time....
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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 32599" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">The message you are sending him is that you are willing to allow a certain amount of pot usage as long as he complies with other rules and he knows this. You have only a very short period of time before he is 18 and you have no legal control over him at all. And you say that he has made only limited progress in a years time. Do you really think that all his problems will resolve themselves and that he will "see the light" by the time he turns 18?</div></div></p><p></p><p>Well said, Donna. And you're right about the short amount of time we have left. I guess the only answer I have for you is that I've made it clear we do NOT condone pot use, will NOT tolerate it in our house or on our premesis, and will NOT tolerate any use ANYWHERE near his siblings, for any reason. That said, there's also the realization of two working parents that we cannot control his actions.</p><p></p><p>In the end, it is about a short window of time, one that I know is closing rapidly and will likely end with him leaving on his own when he grads in 2008, regardless of whether under his own power or with our foot in his rear. </p><p></p><p>In the end, what can you <u>really</u> do force a change in less than a year, to someone who's 6 months from being 18? Not much. What we can do: </p><p><ul>[*]I can limit the damage he can do to us and his siblings. [*]I can maintain control of my own household, even if he chooses to absent himself from it. [*]If it gets bad, I can limit the damage he can do to himself (until he's 18).[*]I can offer support and help, and guidance when he wants it. [*]I can try to set the example and keep the doors open. [/list] </p><p>And hopefully, he'll either walk through a door before he leaves, or leave knowing he can come back for help when he DOES want to change. I may be a softie, but I won't be a fool.</p><p></p><p>Time. I understand - we just don't have very much left, so I'm trying to do the best with the little I have. The rest is up to him.</p><p> :rolleyes: </p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 32599, member: 3579"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">The message you are sending him is that you are willing to allow a certain amount of pot usage as long as he complies with other rules and he knows this. You have only a very short period of time before he is 18 and you have no legal control over him at all. And you say that he has made only limited progress in a years time. Do you really think that all his problems will resolve themselves and that he will "see the light" by the time he turns 18?</div></div> Well said, Donna. And you're right about the short amount of time we have left. I guess the only answer I have for you is that I've made it clear we do NOT condone pot use, will NOT tolerate it in our house or on our premesis, and will NOT tolerate any use ANYWHERE near his siblings, for any reason. That said, there's also the realization of two working parents that we cannot control his actions. In the end, it is about a short window of time, one that I know is closing rapidly and will likely end with him leaving on his own when he grads in 2008, regardless of whether under his own power or with our foot in his rear. In the end, what can you <u>really</u> do force a change in less than a year, to someone who's 6 months from being 18? Not much. What we can do: <ul>[*]I can limit the damage he can do to us and his siblings. [*]I can maintain control of my own household, even if he chooses to absent himself from it. [*]If it gets bad, I can limit the damage he can do to himself (until he's 18).[*]I can offer support and help, and guidance when he wants it. [*]I can try to set the example and keep the doors open. [/list] And hopefully, he'll either walk through a door before he leaves, or leave knowing he can come back for help when he DOES want to change. I may be a softie, but I won't be a fool. Time. I understand - we just don't have very much left, so I'm trying to do the best with the little I have. The rest is up to him. [img]:rolleyes:[/img] Mikey [/QUOTE]
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