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<blockquote data-quote="Skool Teacher" data-source="post: 680206" data-attributes="member: 20029"><p>Yes, Detaching, I need to hear from you and others to help me stay on my path and to know that I'm not the only one dealing with a wayward adult child. This is very difficult but I do know that this will help her in the long run become independent and either sink or swim and figure out what type of life SHE wants to have not what I want for her. It's very obvious that she doesn't want the life she could possibly have and she has fought me every step of the way and feels like I owe her and she is entitled to things she hasn't worked for or earned. </p><p></p><p>She didn't think I would put her out or completely cut her off. Now she is all pitiful and blaming me for her current living arrangements and seems disappointed that I'm not concerned if she is eating or how she is surviving right now. I'm very concerned and I care but if I cave now, she'll never figure out how she's going to be an adult. I'm actually having a rough morning with all of this but through it all I know I don't want her to come back, I don't want to go to court and that is just an idol threat because she's just not that bright nor does she have money to this and she is too sorry to follow through, and I'm NOT GIVING her a dime to ass off. Any help will be just like you've done, directly doing an action with money that will never touch her hands and ONLY once she gets herself together and on the road to becoming a responsible adult. I don't see this or proof of it, then NO help financially or otherwise!!!</p><p></p><p>I've seen some of my relatives go through this with their adult children and friends as well. I've always said that I would never let my adult child do that to me and age 21 was my official cut off for her especially since she is not in college but she didn't make it till 21. She is 20 and officially on her own. Maybe one day she'll realize that this was the best thing I could have done for her. Who knows and at this point her cares what she thinks. I'm beyond tired and I still have to deal with the financial trail of destruction she left before I put her out. I'm still dealing with an accident claim she was involved in that had multiple cars involved, a wrecked truck and Lord knows what else that I don't even know about.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad I found this sight and that I have people that I can talk to about this that fully understand what I'm going through and that can offer encouragement let me know I'm not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Skool Teacher, post: 680206, member: 20029"] Yes, Detaching, I need to hear from you and others to help me stay on my path and to know that I'm not the only one dealing with a wayward adult child. This is very difficult but I do know that this will help her in the long run become independent and either sink or swim and figure out what type of life SHE wants to have not what I want for her. It's very obvious that she doesn't want the life she could possibly have and she has fought me every step of the way and feels like I owe her and she is entitled to things she hasn't worked for or earned. She didn't think I would put her out or completely cut her off. Now she is all pitiful and blaming me for her current living arrangements and seems disappointed that I'm not concerned if she is eating or how she is surviving right now. I'm very concerned and I care but if I cave now, she'll never figure out how she's going to be an adult. I'm actually having a rough morning with all of this but through it all I know I don't want her to come back, I don't want to go to court and that is just an idol threat because she's just not that bright nor does she have money to this and she is too sorry to follow through, and I'm NOT GIVING her a dime to ass off. Any help will be just like you've done, directly doing an action with money that will never touch her hands and ONLY once she gets herself together and on the road to becoming a responsible adult. I don't see this or proof of it, then NO help financially or otherwise!!! I've seen some of my relatives go through this with their adult children and friends as well. I've always said that I would never let my adult child do that to me and age 21 was my official cut off for her especially since she is not in college but she didn't make it till 21. She is 20 and officially on her own. Maybe one day she'll realize that this was the best thing I could have done for her. Who knows and at this point her cares what she thinks. I'm beyond tired and I still have to deal with the financial trail of destruction she left before I put her out. I'm still dealing with an accident claim she was involved in that had multiple cars involved, a wrecked truck and Lord knows what else that I don't even know about. I'm glad I found this sight and that I have people that I can talk to about this that fully understand what I'm going through and that can offer encouragement let me know I'm not alone. [/QUOTE]
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