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What a surprise. Father actually did not call.
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 642160" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>MWM, this might sound awful to someone who hasn't been through this, but you all know how awful my dad was. When he learned he was dying he sent a letter to me telling me I was disinherited, after not talking to me for 15 years. Same situation - I had told him that I was an adult and I wouldn't be tolerate his disrespect anymore. Then last Father's Day he died, and I heard it from an old neighbor/friend.</p><p></p><p>Things with the kids were already tenuous enough, there was no question that I was done with L. I had done what I could to prepare M for the idea that he is a 29 year old man who makes his own decisions and has to take responsibility for what he does. It's on <em>M</em> that he chose to honor that last wish of my father's to not even tell me he died. I'm fairly certain that both my kids somehow got a promise of an extra portion of the estate (why would he not leave everything to my mom?) to sell me out. Oh well, their loss for a few pieces of silver. But I digress...</p><p></p><p>My father was always <em>the</em> example in my family for manipulation and hatred. He's dead now and not only will I not miss him (how could I? I haven't heard from him since 1998), I have high hopes that I will never receive another nasty letter from him. God knows if anyone was likely to set up a system to send out nasty messages after their death, it's him. It's a huge relief. His death doesn't directly change anything in my life.</p><p></p><p>I suppose if someone buys into the theory that others benefit from our prayers for relief, then they should also buy into the theory that others lose from our prayers for harm or evil thoughts. I have no doubt that my dad held evil thoughts for me, so that's one less evil force working against me. I'm sure that there are people who will miss him and I don't discount them that. There are people who die a natural death every day and it doesn't affect me one way or another. I can't see his death as anything more or less than that.</p><p></p><p>It will hurt when your dad dies, but not as much as his living has and then it will be over. You know he's poisonous to your well-being. Let him be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 642160, member: 99"] MWM, this might sound awful to someone who hasn't been through this, but you all know how awful my dad was. When he learned he was dying he sent a letter to me telling me I was disinherited, after not talking to me for 15 years. Same situation - I had told him that I was an adult and I wouldn't be tolerate his disrespect anymore. Then last Father's Day he died, and I heard it from an old neighbor/friend. Things with the kids were already tenuous enough, there was no question that I was done with L. I had done what I could to prepare M for the idea that he is a 29 year old man who makes his own decisions and has to take responsibility for what he does. It's on [I]M[/I] that he chose to honor that last wish of my father's to not even tell me he died. I'm fairly certain that both my kids somehow got a promise of an extra portion of the estate (why would he not leave everything to my mom?) to sell me out. Oh well, their loss for a few pieces of silver. But I digress... My father was always [I]the[/I] example in my family for manipulation and hatred. He's dead now and not only will I not miss him (how could I? I haven't heard from him since 1998), I have high hopes that I will never receive another nasty letter from him. God knows if anyone was likely to set up a system to send out nasty messages after their death, it's him. It's a huge relief. His death doesn't directly change anything in my life. I suppose if someone buys into the theory that others benefit from our prayers for relief, then they should also buy into the theory that others lose from our prayers for harm or evil thoughts. I have no doubt that my dad held evil thoughts for me, so that's one less evil force working against me. I'm sure that there are people who will miss him and I don't discount them that. There are people who die a natural death every day and it doesn't affect me one way or another. I can't see his death as anything more or less than that. It will hurt when your dad dies, but not as much as his living has and then it will be over. You know he's poisonous to your well-being. Let him be. [/QUOTE]
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