this week has been a roller coaster. 2 weeks ago difficult child got suspended, earlier last week he got into another verbal altercation at school again but was not suspended. He was blowing up over everything and anything.......irritability through the roof.one morning when I was driving him to school after he had a pretty tough time (of course his sister and I took the brunt of it) he asked if I could give him more pills so he would be nicer. I asked him if he wanted me to call psychiatrist and ask her and he said yes. That has been the first time he has ever verbalized that he knows that the medications help him! I called psychiatrist and she upped his abilify (with the hope that eventually we can back off when life calms down). Saturday he was doing his chore of cleaning up the dogs poop. It was a mess as it had not been done in a while. He got frustrated when stuff got stuck in the grass. He would not work unless I was out there, so I sat out there playing on my phone and being encouraging. Kept calm and cool the while time. After much yelling, swearing, whining, complaining.and a few tears he finished. He calmed down, and I took him to spend his money. On the way home? He apologized and we were able to talk about how we could do things differently to avoid the nastiness! Also a first. He went out with his new mentor tonight and they hit it off. When he brought difficult child home difficult child took him into his room (i nearly had a heart attack as his room should be condemned) to show him his indoor garden and the grow light he got for it (and it is just vegetables). The mentor wanted to be paired up with an active middle school boy........he sure got what he wanted. Mentor is picking difficult child up from school on wednesday and they will go do stuff then. Now I just have to get a good skills builder with the wrap around people and get then on the same page as me and hopefully we can make more progress.