I watch t.v. shows and movies where relationships are much different from mine. mainly shows. The man usually listens to what the women says and the women makes most the decisions and when the women is upset the man usually comforts her. Is it really like that in real life? I feel like my relationship with my husband is rare. My husband deff wears the pants in the relationship. anything he says goes. He makes all the decisions regarding the money, anything to do with the money and I'm not just talking about $200 investments I'm talking about what kind of toliet paper we get and what brand of foods we get. for example he won't buy me real butter only margine and won't buy me any shampoo other than suave and v-8 (I think that's what they are called). every once in a while he will but only 10% of the time. My husband NEVER comforts me when I cry! Is he suppose to? I thought that was only on t.v. until recently. he just rolls his eyes or tells me to leave the room. I rarely start crying in front of him unless I just can't help it. Like if I'm upset about something. Crazy, but he's usually the reason why I'm crying. So, as a couple are we odd or are my t.v. shows full of lies? I have social anziety so I seldom spend time with other couples other than my husbands cousin and his wife but he emotionally abuses her too and calls her fat and cheats on her all the time. I never see them any more anyway only when we were moved at Fort Campbell. But in ways I am jelous of her because he is better than my husband in three ways, he lets her make more decisions with money, he is more of a father than my husband, and they do more as a family. So I have always told my husband I had social anziety, ADD, and depression, learning disability. and he has always told me I was using excuses and basically to get over it, and then all the sudden he comes back from Afghanastan with these anziety problems, social anziety mainly, and I hate saying this about my husband because he is usually the opposite, but he is milking it I feel. And one day i finally said something to him about how he had PTSD and i thought I had PPD and he told me I don't even know what that means and I don't even know what anziety is and I don't understand. No I don't understand what he went through but I understand what my problems are. grr, so anyway thank you for reading my rant. I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or sympathy,comfort or an answer. I guess a little of all. I'm not the type of person to make up disorders i really don't feel like I have, nor am I the type of person to make up any lies at all about my situation.