I really am a loss. difficult child is in a very depressed state of mind. She's like a recluse - cut off from everyone, makes almost no effort to connect with friends and make plans. She gets herself all dressed up and hangs around the house, or on line and just is mezmorized by the constant stream of crap on facebook. She looks miserable. Last night her ONE friend slept over after a night of fishing and when she came in it was apparent that she'd ben crying. I was so excited to see her going out. After fishing they were supposed to go to a pool party by one of her friends from school, but I guess that was cancelled and so they came home. This morning I called the friend to see why difficult child had been crying (she wouldn't tell me last night) and her friend said that she wasn't too sure, but difficult child had been crying for about 2 hours last night. Friend said that difficult child kept saying, "Its not like I want to kill myself, I just don't feel like there is any point in being here...I have nothing to look forward to." This past week, difficult child went to see her counselor and since I was busy paying the bill, they went into the room and closed the door. Then when they came out, after only 30 minutes!) the counselor said that difficult child wants to do individual counseling and not family, as the counselor had suggested the week before. Part of me believes that difficult child prefers this because then I won't be in the room to call her out in front of the counselor and she can behave as a normal person and the counselor will buy into her act. on the other hand, maybe difficult child really needs to have that time alone to vent about her stuff. Should I call the counselor today and tell her what's going on with difficult child re: the crying, listlessness, etc? Also, while I was in ME, almost immediately difficult child pulled stuff on H and they wound up having a tizzy on Sunday morning when difficult child was caught lying about where she slept out. She told H she was at her g-fiend's but when H called in the morning, the friend's little sister told H that difficult child had never been there. difficult child confessed to H that she had slept over her new pukey boyfriend's house, ew. When I spoke with difficult child from ME, because she called me hysterical because H took away her car for the day (not enough in my opinion), she told me that her boyfriend did coke and had threatened to knock her teeth out - she claims she broke up with him. Later she told me that he broke up with her because he had sex with one of the other girls in the house that night!! WTH?? I know part of the reason she's feeling like crap is because she feels like she messed up again. She always goes into remorse stage when she feels like she messed up again and this is how it comes out. Since the last time she did this she wound up in the hospital suicidal. So what do I do?