There is a girl who, for complicated reasons that are more about herself than my daughter, has enlisted a group of girls to harass our daughter. We are going to school to take care of it there because we are seriously worried that our daughter will go ballistic and start fighting with one of the girls. She never has before, but she has been harassed so badly that she has told us "enough is enough." She's a very strong girl too. I'm also worried about her mental health. We t hought the problem would work itself out, but it is escalating and involving more and more girls. Last night one of the girls was silly enough to send a long, long hateful IM and we printed it out. Another girl left a long, long hateful cell message and some text messages, which we also kept. We called the police (there are two in our town...lol). He is very friendly with our hub and his daughter is one of the kids who was involved, however she is basically a good kid who got caught up in the pack mentality. But the text messages and hateful phoneall came from her cell phone, although she wasn't the one who was talking. Suffice to say, she won't have a cell phone for a long time...lol. The problem is Sara, the force behind all this hate (and what I described is the tip of the iceberg). The cop was very angry at the Ringleader and was going to talk to both the girl and her parents. Her parents, who are both alcoholics, are fueling their daughter on. This morning hub and I are going to school. It is such a teeny school that they can't afford to lose one student and we may bluff that they take action on this "girl aggression" (as it is now called) or put her in another school (Wisconsin has school choice). It's pure BS bluff, but they really freak at the thought of losing any students. And we are serious that they better talk to Sara and treat her as if she had hit my daughter--it's just as hurtful, if not worse. My daughter doesn't give a rat's if they are friends again, in fact she doesn't want her as a friend. She wants her to stop spreading lies about her at school and stop talking about her. This actually has worked at our school with other kids because the school is so small that they can keep an eye on the kids without much trouble and they can hear if this garbage is going down. My daughter hates us to interfere, however s he was so distraught she told us, "Yes, do anything you can." I am afraid of what will happen if we don't stop it. She is adopted and there is a history of mood disorders and drug abuse on her birthfather's side (VERY heavy). So far she has been a strong young woman. It is alarming to see her falling apart. It must be VERY bad if she feels she needs our help. All you moms out there, any thoughts? I am alarmed that girls can be THIS vicious that they can get a normally strong young woman to roll up into fetal position and just sob and say "I can't take it." Are we wrong to go to school? On the other hand, should we pull her out if it doesn't improve? Good heavens, if my daughter was involved in treating somebody else this way, she'd be grounded until next year and she'd have to apologize face-to-face and her pride be damned. We just don't allow it. We are keeping the messages to show the principal so he doesn't think we are exaggerating. Any words of wisdom?