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What comes out when life squeezes you?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 666422" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>That is so true COM, thanks for pointing that out. I can look back and see how often in my past lives my first responses when "squeezed" were judgement, blame, seeing myself as a victim of circumstances or any number of negative reactions that I had either learned from my family or I designed to protect myself from being vulnerable. I still have some of those reactions, however, with time, therapy and a whole lot of refraining, I've come to the realization that those responses were my perceptions, not necessarily the truth........when we are stuck in that place of seeing things so black and white, it is challenging to figure out that our opinions and perceptions are not always' the truth', but a version of the truth seen through our own lens. </p><p></p><p>In regard to my "soft" spots like enabling, I will often ask my husband or my best friend if there are any holes in my thinking before I go off half cocked where there will likely need to be an apology or a big explanation of my 'behavior.' Sometimes I am shocked to find out that my big truth was yet another illusion, another perception, another opinion which bears no resemblance to any truth.........it's pretty amazing how we can see things so differently through whatever lens is filtering reality. </p><p></p><p>I think that is why I place such high regard on the therapy I've had, the therapists could point to my skewered thinking in ways I could hear which would then give me pause to dig deeper to find out the real truth......and in time I was able to learn to step back and see where my responsibility lie...which of course, judgement, blame and being a victim masks...once I could see that, I was empowered and on the road to being true to myself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 666422, member: 13542"] That is so true COM, thanks for pointing that out. I can look back and see how often in my past lives my first responses when "squeezed" were judgement, blame, seeing myself as a victim of circumstances or any number of negative reactions that I had either learned from my family or I designed to protect myself from being vulnerable. I still have some of those reactions, however, with time, therapy and a whole lot of refraining, I've come to the realization that those responses were my perceptions, not necessarily the truth........when we are stuck in that place of seeing things so black and white, it is challenging to figure out that our opinions and perceptions are not always' the truth', but a version of the truth seen through our own lens. In regard to my "soft" spots like enabling, I will often ask my husband or my best friend if there are any holes in my thinking before I go off half cocked where there will likely need to be an apology or a big explanation of my 'behavior.' Sometimes I am shocked to find out that my big truth was yet another illusion, another perception, another opinion which bears no resemblance to any truth.........it's pretty amazing how we can see things so differently through whatever lens is filtering reality. I think that is why I place such high regard on the therapy I've had, the therapists could point to my skewered thinking in ways I could hear which would then give me pause to dig deeper to find out the real truth......and in time I was able to learn to step back and see where my responsibility lie...which of course, judgement, blame and being a victim masks...once I could see that, I was empowered and on the road to being true to myself. [/QUOTE]
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