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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 64513" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>I have to say that once I let up on the rules, my household was less of a battleground. It was getting to the point where we were both becoming unhealthy with the way our house was being run. </p><p>Now, that does not mean she got free reign. But, expecting him to be able to stop a video game, using up a specified amount of time - my difficult child would have never been able to do that. She would have melted down everyday as soon as the time was up. It did not matter if I stuck to the consequence, dealt with the raging, ignored it, whatever - she never learned. Never figured out how to do something like this. </p><p></p><p>That is the underlying problem that I have faced. Getting difficult child to learn. I know she does not learn from punishments. Do I do it - yes. But, not nearly as much as I used to as it was pointless. I just had to let go of trying to teach at this time due to the battle that would ensue. </p><p></p><p>I have recently (difficult child is 16 now) started to implement some rules and consequences - 'do to get' type things. It is still a fragile ground we walk. But, she seems to get it a bit better. Have not had her just do something without being reminded - but it is better than it was at 12 and for sure better than it was at 8. </p><p></p><p>It was not how I wanted to parent. But, it worked better than my traditional parenting techniques.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 64513, member: 391"] I have to say that once I let up on the rules, my household was less of a battleground. It was getting to the point where we were both becoming unhealthy with the way our house was being run. Now, that does not mean she got free reign. But, expecting him to be able to stop a video game, using up a specified amount of time - my difficult child would have never been able to do that. She would have melted down everyday as soon as the time was up. It did not matter if I stuck to the consequence, dealt with the raging, ignored it, whatever - she never learned. Never figured out how to do something like this. That is the underlying problem that I have faced. Getting difficult child to learn. I know she does not learn from punishments. Do I do it - yes. But, not nearly as much as I used to as it was pointless. I just had to let go of trying to teach at this time due to the battle that would ensue. I have recently (difficult child is 16 now) started to implement some rules and consequences - 'do to get' type things. It is still a fragile ground we walk. But, she seems to get it a bit better. Have not had her just do something without being reminded - but it is better than it was at 12 and for sure better than it was at 8. It was not how I wanted to parent. But, it worked better than my traditional parenting techniques. [/QUOTE]
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