The rapid, brief background is that both my late husband and his brother have died by suicide within the past 5 years. Their parents, my former in-laws, are both still living. There were no other children. mother in law also lost her dear sisters. By my observation, she has never been a happy person and she is a severe alcoholic. father in law has always been a complete @$$hole. I made a decision long ago that I would have minimal contact with them. I received a phone call from father in law's brother yesterday. father in law recently purchased burial plans for himself and his wife. He went to the florist and pre-ordered flowers to be delivered to their graves once a month for a period of time, a year, I think. I believe father in law is preparing for something horrible. His brother thinks so, too. I am remembering when my brother in law died, that a family friend told me that she expects a murder/suicide to occur with my in-laws. I now think this is a more than likely possibility. mother in law has been diagnosed with cancer and is mostly bed-ridden. father in law's health is declining rapidly. mother in law has asked to go live in a nursing home, and father in law refused. My question is: do I say anything to my children about the possibility of their grandparents taking this drastic step? Do I simply talk in general about them being elderly and in failing health? Do I discuss that I think father in law has personality disorder? Trying very hard not to kick myself for marrying into this family . . . .