eekysign
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My little sister has been having behavioral issues for as long as I can remember---rage, anger, hatred toward the family, but with periods of total sweetness in between. She's very, very smart, and has always been bored in school. Between trying to get the education right and her behavioral problems (which are better at school than at home, but not much--but at least she's never been physically violent there), she's changed schools a billion times.
She's really immature for her age, and is not interested in boys, drugs, etc. She's just an angry little kid and can't control her behavior, everyone's unfair, everyone's mean, etc, etc. Her Dad (my stepdad) died two years ago of cancer, but she's always been like this---no noticeable difference in behavior. It's just Mom and I now---and I don't live at home. We're a good family, loving, eat dinner every night together type-of-thing. No abuse, no yelling, etc.
Today she's getting sent home from a very good boarding school (she's 14)--we had hoped that good academics and a "break" from home might be what she needed to be happy. She had a suspension last week, and so this is the end of it, for her. She comes home on a plane today. I'm SO worried.....she's so violent/hateful toward my mom, and Mom is absolutely at the end of her rope---she doesn't have anything left to fight her off with. Sis's gonna be a basketcase when she gets here, and it's not like there's any therapist to toss her to the minute she walks off the plane. I don't know if Mom can handle her at full-blown tantrum level right now. Mom just got home last night from a 5 hour trip to handle the suspension thing, and is absolutely exhausted.
Sis has ruined every major holiday our family has had since she was about 3 or 4. Mother's Day, she told Mom she hated her, and ruined the incredible surprise present SHE had bought for her. Thanksgiving, she refused to go with us, so we all stayed home and ate reheated chili. If I visit home for more than 24 hours, she starts telling me she hates me. There have been times we've had to physical restrain her from hurting us. What do we do here? Our hometown is kinda rural, which is why she hasn't been in counseling before now, there's really no one that does kids counseling here. I'm SO worried about it. She's gonna throw away her life if she doesn't get it together this year or so (colleges might like her perfect grades, but not the 80 suspensions/expulsions she's sure to get). Advice and ideas would be soooo appreciated.
She's really immature for her age, and is not interested in boys, drugs, etc. She's just an angry little kid and can't control her behavior, everyone's unfair, everyone's mean, etc, etc. Her Dad (my stepdad) died two years ago of cancer, but she's always been like this---no noticeable difference in behavior. It's just Mom and I now---and I don't live at home. We're a good family, loving, eat dinner every night together type-of-thing. No abuse, no yelling, etc.
Today she's getting sent home from a very good boarding school (she's 14)--we had hoped that good academics and a "break" from home might be what she needed to be happy. She had a suspension last week, and so this is the end of it, for her. She comes home on a plane today. I'm SO worried.....she's so violent/hateful toward my mom, and Mom is absolutely at the end of her rope---she doesn't have anything left to fight her off with. Sis's gonna be a basketcase when she gets here, and it's not like there's any therapist to toss her to the minute she walks off the plane. I don't know if Mom can handle her at full-blown tantrum level right now. Mom just got home last night from a 5 hour trip to handle the suspension thing, and is absolutely exhausted.
Sis has ruined every major holiday our family has had since she was about 3 or 4. Mother's Day, she told Mom she hated her, and ruined the incredible surprise present SHE had bought for her. Thanksgiving, she refused to go with us, so we all stayed home and ate reheated chili. If I visit home for more than 24 hours, she starts telling me she hates me. There have been times we've had to physical restrain her from hurting us. What do we do here? Our hometown is kinda rural, which is why she hasn't been in counseling before now, there's really no one that does kids counseling here. I'm SO worried about it. She's gonna throw away her life if she doesn't get it together this year or so (colleges might like her perfect grades, but not the 80 suspensions/expulsions she's sure to get). Advice and ideas would be soooo appreciated.