Oh, Loth - I'm so sorry to hear this.
Initially, probably even a bit younger than Missy, if thank you destroyed something it got pitched and was not replaced (including doors). We had reversed the lock on his bedroom door when he was 4, and the kid not only broke the door but also completely knocked the doorframe out of the wall. I absolutely totally understand the concept of needing that moment or ten to catch your breath and have physical distance before you address the raging, but for us at least, the locked bedroom door just didn't work.
I wouldn't repair holes in walls, doors, molding, etc., until you are putting the house on the market or she has moved. Or, on a more positive note, until she's gone a significant amount of time without destroying things. Every time I fixed or replaced something, thank you would either trash the repaired area or move on to something new. It was a recipe for *major* resentment and anger on my part. thank you destroyed his and Boo's bedroom door... gosh, 10 years ago? It's just now getting replaced and only because we're doing major renovations around here.
To be honest, my house is still barren. Anything I had of sentimental value or for decorative purposes was demolished by thank you a long time ago. When I finally clued in, shortly after arriving on the board, I took what was left and boxed it up. It's still boxed up because he is still occasionally in our home and while I don't think he would destroy things, his discovery of the power of pawn shops has given him a whole new bag of tricks (not that there's anything of value left at this point - ugh). We *just* purchased halfway decent lamps - up to this point, anything we might have brought into the house was very carefully screened for breakability and how much it would hurt if/when it was launched in a rage.
I had to chuckle about the legos. I did a rant the first or second Christmas I was on the board that legos *must* have been invented by a difficult child because they not only multiply spontaneously, but they show up in the oddest places. And of course, there's that throwing thing.
By age 7, anything that was thrown at a living being automatically was thrown away, period. Didn't matter if it was brand new - it was gone. The other kids' things were very carefully stored in their own space and thank you didn't have access to them.
I am a firm believer in restraining a raging child, Loth. When I mastered doing it without emotion, it was hands down the most effective tool we had in dealing with that flat out raging. We were trained by therapist so that thank you and husband and I were able to be safe, and we had it well documented in thank you's records that we were trained. My take on it is that when a kid is raging, even when the initial revving up is intentional (as it was so often with thank you), there's a point where he completely and truly lost control. His raging was like a wild animal - no rhyme and no chance of reasoning. By restraining him, I took control of the situation completely and without question. I think he had/has some sensory issues along with all the rest of it - restraints would actually calm him (as long as I kept my mouth shut - he of course never kept his mouth shut, LOL). The time for processing is not during the restraint, but a significant amount of time afterwards. Restraints are the one sure thing I would do again in a heartbeat, the one thing I know was the right choice for our family. It probably saved a door or two and a couple of walls, the TV, to say nothing of the other kids.
Gosh, I had kind of forgotten those days. They were beyond hard and certainly there were/are parts of our home that look like they've been bombed as a result of his raging. Thinking back on it, I guess there came a point where the holes and damage were secondary to what was going on with him and what was involved in just getting through a day. To be honest, there is some damage I've intentionally left alone - it's no longer a source of anger or resentment or grief, just kind of a reminder of... I don't know, what we've survived? What he can be capable of? How we need to be sure safety is always #1? Something, anyway.
I do think a call to psychiatrist and therapist is in order, to hopefully hammer out a way to safely manage her raging. A gentle hug to you.