when your difficult child demands so much of your time/attention? My 8 y.o. has started asking me why difficult child's "ruining our lives," and has said a few times over the past couple weeks she wishes difficult child were never born. I've tried explaining difficult child can't help it, but that's not a concept a child can grasp. Due to her various activities and school schedule, she has not been free to go to difficult child's therapy sessions; this week works out that the whole family can go. I'm going to ask the therapist to try to explain it for easy child 1 and easy child 2, since I'm at a loss for words. husband and I also have stepped up the individualized attention with each of the three. For instance, easy child 1 went to my mom's for the weekend, just her, for some one-on-one time with her favorite grandparent. Yesterday, difficult child worked outside alongside husband and brother in law as they did outside work. While she was outside, I spent time with easy child 2.