Okay, a little bit of an update... easy child and I are leaving on the 17th for a "trip" to my brother's house. This is going to be hard on everybody, and when I come back, I will be finding alternate housing (not with difficult child, because it's not safe). I did, however, TELL husband that we are leaving last night. I'd been advised from so many NOT to tell him. I'd also told him before that I wanted to leave and he guilted me into staying, so I was a bit nervous to tell him. But it was eating me up inside to think of just taking off for a month or so and give him no chance to say goodbye to easy child. Whatever he's done, he doesn't deserve that. It went surprisingly well- I guess today will be worse when he gets home, but I'm not sure. At least I can live with myself now. He did suggest that I go by myself and leave easy child here with him... I told him he obviously underestimates when I say that I am fearful for easy child and myself because of difficult child. He didn't say a word after that and didn't mention easy child staying again. Now to my main question... How do you explain your difficult child's to your easy child's? I mean, you don't want them to think that is normal or acceptable behavior. I don't want easy child to just believe that since difficult child hits him/is mean to him, that he should accept that, and I don't want him to think that's an acceptable way to treat others (worried about when he gets around other children, he tends to be aggressive). easy child is almost 4, and he's been comparing difficult child to the "bad guys" on movies and such, and talking about the way difficult child acts sometimes much more lately. I'm not sure the best way to go about this, but it obviously needs to be addressed. I'd like to be able to have easy child know that he shouldn't be alone with difficult child, ever, so he can do some self protection, but how do you tell a 4 yr old that?