What do you think the single defining...

tiredmommy

Well-Known Member
characteristic of gfgdom is? I'm thinking, in Duckie's case at least, that it may be her lack of ownership of her problems. She deflects blame better than a star goalie deflects pucks! Anyway, I was curious as to what others thought the root character flaw was in their difficult child.
 

meowbunny

New Member
Truly skewed logic for my daughter. It's not just the convoluted thinking to get out of something, it's the thinking that makes everyone responsible for her and her feelings.
 

daralex

Clinging onto my sanity
Mine wouldn't know ownership/responsibility if it stood right in her face, bit her on the a** and announced itself! it's knowing that what you're dealing with is not the "norm". Everyone has off days - but not 365 in a row!! It always amazes me that we deal with what we deal with all the time and most moms are complaining about a B instead of an A as we are just tickled if they make it through a day with out a melt down! We are stronger - difficult child's ensure it!
-Dara
 

DammitJanet

Well-Known Member
Impulsiveness along with a healthy dose of not caring about any one but himself, the inability to see that tomorrow has anything to do with what he does today and a complete lack of moral fiber.
 

totoro

Mom? What's a difficult child?
For K right now I would say it is her grandiosity mixed with the lack of reality!!! There is no real movement forward... I am sure this will change!!! These 2 things luckily seem to encompass every symptom!!!
 

timer lady

Queen of Hearts
I'd have to say:
  1. Inability to see cause & effect
  2. Poor impulse control
  3. Lack of boundaries (social skills).
  4. "Orphan" mentality.
The above apply to both kt & wm on any given day or in any given moment. It contributes to their constant need for supervision & a controlled setting. For the continual reminders & cues.

Thanks for the thread, TM. It's interesting to see what each of us is dealing with on any given day.:erm:
 

Wiped Out

Well-Known Member
Staff member
I've been thinking about this since last night and having a hard time coming up with just one. I think his sense of skewed logic is huge. In his mind he is always justified for everything he does. If he gets violent it's the fault of the person for making him mad. There is no arguing with him because he is always right.
 

SaraT

New Member
I think its a combination of things. All kids have periods of not taking responsibility, lying, etc, but when it is ongoing and all together, thats when you know you are in gfgdom. Add poor social skills, poor emotional control, being in ones own little world, and there you have mine.
 

Fran

Former desparate mom
Sounds like all of this rolled up into one child is a difficult child. My difficult child has bits of everything you have described.
 

busywend

Well-Known Member
Yes, all of these things are my difficult child.
My single way to describe difficult child:

Resistant to parenting

That is the way I describe it now. She just resists all efforts at parenting. I still dole it out and she still resists. People 'get' that when I say it that way. They seem to accept that easier than oppositional or defiant. I have no idea why. The school seemed to have their 'ahha' moment when I put it this way.
 

crazymama30

Active Member
Wow, what is interesting to me is my difficult child has issues with all of these things, except the orpan mentality. It's good to see others put the issues to words, because sometimes I cannot.
 
M

ML

Guest
YES YES YES YES. You have just described it all for me. I can't think of anything to add.
 

tammyjh

New Member
1. Her inability to regulate her moods.
2. Lack of reasoning skills.
3. Lack of empathy.

I know you asked for only one but those are the top three that all seem to run together but the moods is at the top of the list.
 
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