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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 694621" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>Leafy, no. They don't realize the pain the problems they have caused. One is in active addiction, and it's meth, so she may not even have a logical thought pattern, but I am sure that you probably didn't share these issues with them. ....and I am not saying you should have or should.</p><p></p><p>The other thing is that losing a father as an adult is far, far different than losing a husband. It's a different loss. Also remember that they have one another to lean on, for them, rekindling a relationship helps them get through a shared experience. They lost their father.</p><p></p><p>You do not share their experience. You lost a husband. It is different.</p><p></p><p>I still feel that it is not fair to take advantage of your vulnerability right now and try to guilt you into something that you aren't ready for. </p><p></p><p>Grief is complex, it is different for everyone. It takes time, it is a process. Please try not to live with regret. Take time, take care of yourself. Heal, get strong and make a decision when your feelings aren't so raw.</p><p></p><p>If it is something that you are comfortable with, maybe a grief support group would help?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 694621, member: 20051"] Leafy, no. They don't realize the pain the problems they have caused. One is in active addiction, and it's meth, so she may not even have a logical thought pattern, but I am sure that you probably didn't share these issues with them. ....and I am not saying you should have or should. The other thing is that losing a father as an adult is far, far different than losing a husband. It's a different loss. Also remember that they have one another to lean on, for them, rekindling a relationship helps them get through a shared experience. They lost their father. You do not share their experience. You lost a husband. It is different. I still feel that it is not fair to take advantage of your vulnerability right now and try to guilt you into something that you aren't ready for. Grief is complex, it is different for everyone. It takes time, it is a process. Please try not to live with regret. Take time, take care of yourself. Heal, get strong and make a decision when your feelings aren't so raw. If it is something that you are comfortable with, maybe a grief support group would help? [/QUOTE]
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