did you have for you family before you realized that your child was a difficult child? I had always thought we'd have two or more children, that changed when Duckie was so difficult from the get-go. I was an overlooked child and didn't want a second or third growing up resenting Duckie. Or, realizing how genetic many disorders are, I didn't think I was up to handling the rigors of multiple difficult children. I was also going to go back to work after she was born, but it wasn't really feasible because of her issues. What changed for you? How have you handled these changes? Looking back, what (if anything) would you have changed?