that having a 13 y/o attend an IEP mtg was a good idea? Especially a 13 y/o with moderate/severe mental & emotional issues/illnesses? A 13 y/o who doesn't have the ability to make safe choices? Our mtg this morning was nothing more than being told there would be no transition. I don't know if SD thought having kt in attendance would stop my rather abrupt explosion of protest or not - doesn't matter. Didn't stop me. I'm generally diplomatic above all things - not this morning. I asked kt to leave the room - this was a matter for the adults to discuss. kt didn't protest - SD did. I quoted MN law which states that my daughter's IEP didn't transfer to her until the age of 17 & there is no law which stipulates she must attend these mtgs before that. SD backed down. My first question to SD was why, if knowing there would be no transition, they didn't call & cancel this mtg? Why waste taxpayers dollars by having CADI manager & mental health CM in attendance to be told "no". SD wanted to know how I felt about it. Hellooooooo! What a load. The reality is that SD want these schools & day treatments to run like small businesses but they do not know how to do that. I asked what other options were on the table. Basically, what has been offered as a comprimise & accepted (after some little debate) is that kt start at the high school after extended school year this summer. If kt is falling apart in the new HS setting she will be transferred back to day treatment - it's being written in the IEP. I asked for very specific criteria for transfer back to day treatment. Highest in my mind is to include kt's "perceived" anxieties which lead to dissociative states versus what is the reality to the rest of us. It must be included as part of the criteria. On another note, I asked day treatment to have information on the schools to which SD is recommending a student be transferred to on hand. It's too difficult to be asked which school &/or program you'd like your child to transfer(graduate) to with-o information. Being told to call that school & set up a tour isn't an answer. SD & staff should have some very basic answers on hand to at least reassure a parent that transferring their child from a very contained, very safe setting to a contained, yet large high school setting. I again today asked very specific questions about the program/school kt would be transferred to - again "I don't know - you'll have to take a tour." I let the director of this program that the referral to her program included some very basic information along with a great deal of pretty specific information. It helped me decide to tour that program & keep an open mind - one way or another about kt's attendance. In the end, kt knew I wasn't angry with her. I informed her that adults make many decisions on behalf of their children - in the best interest of their children everyday. Most of the time kt hasn't a clue what type of decisions I make for her. From what to make for dinner, what medications to take, etc, etc, etc. Thanks for letting me vent! I hate showcasing! I hate not being prepared - being clueless to what questions must come up in parent mtgs daily. I'm done- thanks for listening.