Oh star no fear, wee is almost never alone with husband. Now, if hes in bed and I have to go somewhere, I'll go... But that basically leaves husband to be sure the house doesn't burn down with wee in it. He can do that.
I keep all Wee's records in a wheeled file box. Even if I don't get them all in the right notebook, everything goes into the box. And I periodically punch and file.
And I guess if worse came to worse, I have addressed my concerns about husband's parenting and his familiy's crapola to the counselor, and have told them how rarely wee stays with husband or sees the rest of his fam, and all but never without me...so maybe if I really needed it, there's my verification of that... I dunno.