I have read your reply. And harsh as it sounded, and difficult for me to read, I know you are right. She is playing games of divide and rule, a lesson she learned from a young age from her Father. He still does the same with all the kids even now that they are grown up. I am going to speak to my husband and we have to agree to stay united. He always says to her that I love her and am the best Mum she could have. He always defends me, however she is playing games and we do not need to take part. I desperately miss my Grand daughter and want to see her so much. Its been two weeks now. I know that she has been unwell, as my daughter rang me to tell me the baby had a temperature and what should she do? She only contacts me if she needs something. Has never, ever rang me in her life to see how I am. I realise that I am actually quite angry now. I do not want to subjugate myself and be her door mat, just to have her in my life. I need to value myself. I have always been a people pleaser due to my childhood. I don't like walking on eggshells, and confrontation so try to keep the peace all the time. I too have a temper, but I keep it in check. I will keep you posted. Thank you so much for all your wise and kind words.