BusynMember
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Sure, Jumper was brought up in a white home (albeit with an asian sister and a very black brother), but in a mostly white area. It is changing, but she has told me she doesn't really like black guys, so she doesn't want to date any. Maybe it makes sense because many of them come from Milwaukee and act like gangstas, but not all of them. Jeeeeeeeeeeeeeez. I want her to meet people of all ethnicities, just as I did my biological son, who IS white.
Jumper is not interested. In fact, she has already decided where she is going to college and it is a tech school with a dorm in a very white neighborhood near a white college in the same town where she'd like to transfer after two years. There are few blacks, asians, Native Americans or anything other than white. I can't force her and any conversation about it just makes her roll her teenage eyes. Jumper is a lighter skinned child, but it is obvious she is part black. Since she broke up with J, she says she doesn't want a boyfriend, but maybe she just isn't asked out...people here do date out of their ethnicity, but...who knows?
Again, she doesn't seem bothered at all. She loves the town, the school, and the town she wants to go to college in. I'm feeling guilty for not taking her to live in a more diverse town. But it is what it is...she was brought up here and it's a great place to live and she loves it. Her Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) brother also has no interest in his roots. When his social worker asked if he wanted to learn more about his ethnicity, he said, "Nah, that's ok." I care less about Sonic though. Being Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), he is such a different type of person.
Jumper is a typical teen with a good head on her shoulders, as I've often said. Would you just let it go? She does not seem unhappy in any way and has tons of friends. She is currently playing volleyball, is in the student council, joining drama (that should be a hoot...it's NOT her thing) and is planning on running for Prom Queen (Junior Year is THE year in this school...there is no senior prom). She is going to prom with a guy who is a friend. She is going to homecoming with her GIRLFRLIENDS...lol. Ok! She claims very few have dates. She does not appear upset.
Is this just more of my nonstop worrying or is this actually a serious issue? I worry about her social life if she stays in mostly white towns, but she isn't the least bit worried. At the crux of the matter, of course, is that I want her to have the fun and angst of teenage romances. Maybe however she is not asked out as much as some girls because she and her friends do not have sex and are clear about that to the boys. Maybe it is the faster girls who have boyfriends. Maybe it isn't about her skin color at all...hmmmmmm...
All thoughts welcome.
Jumper is not interested. In fact, she has already decided where she is going to college and it is a tech school with a dorm in a very white neighborhood near a white college in the same town where she'd like to transfer after two years. There are few blacks, asians, Native Americans or anything other than white. I can't force her and any conversation about it just makes her roll her teenage eyes. Jumper is a lighter skinned child, but it is obvious she is part black. Since she broke up with J, she says she doesn't want a boyfriend, but maybe she just isn't asked out...people here do date out of their ethnicity, but...who knows?
Again, she doesn't seem bothered at all. She loves the town, the school, and the town she wants to go to college in. I'm feeling guilty for not taking her to live in a more diverse town. But it is what it is...she was brought up here and it's a great place to live and she loves it. Her Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) brother also has no interest in his roots. When his social worker asked if he wanted to learn more about his ethnicity, he said, "Nah, that's ok." I care less about Sonic though. Being Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), he is such a different type of person.
Jumper is a typical teen with a good head on her shoulders, as I've often said. Would you just let it go? She does not seem unhappy in any way and has tons of friends. She is currently playing volleyball, is in the student council, joining drama (that should be a hoot...it's NOT her thing) and is planning on running for Prom Queen (Junior Year is THE year in this school...there is no senior prom). She is going to prom with a guy who is a friend. She is going to homecoming with her GIRLFRLIENDS...lol. Ok! She claims very few have dates. She does not appear upset.
Is this just more of my nonstop worrying or is this actually a serious issue? I worry about her social life if she stays in mostly white towns, but she isn't the least bit worried. At the crux of the matter, of course, is that I want her to have the fun and angst of teenage romances. Maybe however she is not asked out as much as some girls because she and her friends do not have sex and are clear about that to the boys. Maybe it is the faster girls who have boyfriends. Maybe it isn't about her skin color at all...hmmmmmm...
All thoughts welcome.