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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 725426" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Leafy, you're an inspiration even when you are struggling with your pain.</p><p></p><p>Each step of this journey is fraught with such suffering for us parents, we stand on the sidelines of our kids lives and watch with horror as they make choices which put them in harms way, time and time again. It takes a huge toll on our well being, on our health, on our hearts and bodies.....every fiber of our being screaming out to save them, to make it stop.....</p><p></p><p>That space in between seeing the atrocities of our kids choices and stepping in to stop those atrocities is where we go slowly insane, where we are at what feels like a life or death choice to save their life, where every fear thought possible to consider lies right there on the tip of our tongue, on the edge of our heart...... on our minds like a land mine ready to blow.</p><p></p><p>And, there is nothing we can do.</p><p></p><p>Those moments of sheer powerlessness and lack of control..... and the profound realization that we cannot save them are the worst moments, terrorizing us from the inside....pushing every single parent button to DO SOMETHING.......</p><p></p><p>But what?</p><p></p><p>That in-between space where we aggressively and relentlessly are pushed internally and often externally to DO SOMETHING is like a run-a-way train inside of us.....to stop the train and refrain from action feels to me as if something devastating and irreversible and horrific will happen as a result of non action.</p><p></p><p>We've fallen into the abyss.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is hard Leafy, perhaps the hardest thing any of us will ever do. Each one of us here has suffered the agonies of the damned, time and time again....but each time we get stronger, we know ourselves better, we develop courage, compassion for ourselves... we're able to tolerate that in-between space.... we recover a little bit faster.... we find some peace and some joy....</p><p></p><p>......it's a steep climb out of that abyss, <u><em>but we CAN climb out.</em></u> You've pulled us out of that abyss Leafy....with your kindness and wisdom....that abyss each one of us falls into periodically......</p><p></p><p>.....use our collective support, empathy, understanding and love to climb on out.....</p><p></p><p>....next time any one of us falls in....it'll be a shorter stay......</p><p></p><p>.....until one day, we'll all just walk on by that abyss......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 725426, member: 13542"] Leafy, you're an inspiration even when you are struggling with your pain. Each step of this journey is fraught with such suffering for us parents, we stand on the sidelines of our kids lives and watch with horror as they make choices which put them in harms way, time and time again. It takes a huge toll on our well being, on our health, on our hearts and bodies.....every fiber of our being screaming out to save them, to make it stop..... That space in between seeing the atrocities of our kids choices and stepping in to stop those atrocities is where we go slowly insane, where we are at what feels like a life or death choice to save their life, where every fear thought possible to consider lies right there on the tip of our tongue, on the edge of our heart...... on our minds like a land mine ready to blow. And, there is nothing we can do. Those moments of sheer powerlessness and lack of control..... and the profound realization that we cannot save them are the worst moments, terrorizing us from the inside....pushing every single parent button to DO SOMETHING....... But what? That in-between space where we aggressively and relentlessly are pushed internally and often externally to DO SOMETHING is like a run-a-way train inside of us.....to stop the train and refrain from action feels to me as if something devastating and irreversible and horrific will happen as a result of non action. We've fallen into the abyss. This is hard Leafy, perhaps the hardest thing any of us will ever do. Each one of us here has suffered the agonies of the damned, time and time again....but each time we get stronger, we know ourselves better, we develop courage, compassion for ourselves... we're able to tolerate that in-between space.... we recover a little bit faster.... we find some peace and some joy.... ......it's a steep climb out of that abyss, [U][I]but we CAN climb out.[/I][/U] You've pulled us out of that abyss Leafy....with your kindness and wisdom....that abyss each one of us falls into periodically...... .....use our collective support, empathy, understanding and love to climb on out..... ....next time any one of us falls in....it'll be a shorter stay...... .....until one day, we'll all just walk on by that abyss...... [/QUOTE]
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