Ok first post I'm new and I'm glad I found this site. I live in the UK so our laws are different but reading other posts the struggle is not. I've been dealing with my first borns problems for 4 years now. He's now 18. He left school 2 years ago and had been pretty much drifting since. He did manage 6 months full time work with his natural father for 6 months almost 6 months ago but currently his days are spent smoking cannabis riding his bike whilst high and turning up to his low paid part time job when he can be bothered. A lot of his behaviour I have put down to his age and insecurity at growing up and I've excused him as being depressed.. I know he has mental health problems which are undiagnosed and for which he has not sought help despite U.S. Seeking this. Each time he gets near to sorting he finds an excuse not to. Anyway I have been trying to practice tough love and have ejected him from the family home twice now for stealing to fund his drug problem. The last time being just two weeks ago. I was again met with tears and regrets for his stealing from a younger sibling and he finally admitted he has an addiction that he can't control.. But sadly despite this and a promise that he wants to change I know he continues to smoke weed on a daily basis and although I know he arranged drug counselling he did not go.. Tonight I know he has again gone out on his motorbike to get high and i wonder how much longer i must sit on this merry go around. I feel that the only way forward is to eject him from my home and from my support, but I also know he is simply unable to cope with this as the drugs have impacted his maturity. what do I do? And how do I get the strength to be strong enough to do it?