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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 675183" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Welcome, Worried Sick Mother</p><p></p><p>I am glad you are here with us. </p><p></p><p>I do not have answers for you, either. Just questions. </p><p></p><p>How old is your son? Does he work? Live independently or with you? </p><p></p><p>If he is over 18, a the end of the day, he is his own person. That he may use drugs or various drugs is his problem to solve. Not yours. </p><p></p><p>We have all tried to one degree or another to get our children to confront their problems. Until they decide themselves to do so, nothing works. They have everything they need to do so independently. </p><p></p><p>I know you are worried. I am too. But the worry does not help. It empowers our children, negatively, to act out towards us. And the worry makes us sick. Eventually.</p><p></p><p>I found it to be better for my son and I both, to get out of his business and let him experience the consequences of his decisions himself. This is the only way there is the possibility of change. </p><p></p><p>Keep posting. It really helps. Nearly every parent here has been in the situation you find yourself in. </p><p></p><p>Little by little we are reclaiming our own lives, and repairing relationships with our kids. By that I mean we regain the high ground as parents, where we control our own space, are respected and respect the autonomy of our children in their own lives. We will never like their choices, if they continue down destructive paths. But we come to understand that they are living their own lives, not ours.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 675183, member: 18958"] Welcome, Worried Sick Mother I am glad you are here with us. I do not have answers for you, either. Just questions. How old is your son? Does he work? Live independently or with you? If he is over 18, a the end of the day, he is his own person. That he may use drugs or various drugs is his problem to solve. Not yours. We have all tried to one degree or another to get our children to confront their problems. Until they decide themselves to do so, nothing works. They have everything they need to do so independently. I know you are worried. I am too. But the worry does not help. It empowers our children, negatively, to act out towards us. And the worry makes us sick. Eventually. I found it to be better for my son and I both, to get out of his business and let him experience the consequences of his decisions himself. This is the only way there is the possibility of change. Keep posting. It really helps. Nearly every parent here has been in the situation you find yourself in. Little by little we are reclaiming our own lives, and repairing relationships with our kids. By that I mean we regain the high ground as parents, where we control our own space, are respected and respect the autonomy of our children in their own lives. We will never like their choices, if they continue down destructive paths. But we come to understand that they are living their own lives, not ours. COPA [/QUOTE]
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