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<blockquote data-quote="C.J." data-source="post: 67171" data-attributes="member: 1987"><p>My difficult child never left a letter the three times she ran. I called the police each time for HER safety. Doing this also told her that I cared enough about her to report her, as I had no way to know that she wasn't a victim of a crime...she liked to leave the house unlocked when she left.</p><p></p><p>Is he on probation with you, or with a legal system? N* was on probation with the legal system, and when she ran, it was against her plan, so she was placed back in Juv. Det, and a court date was set to revoke her probation. At the hearing, the judge placed her in the custody of the Juvenile Justice Authority. Boy did that feel like "Parent Failure!" She was placed in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). </p><p></p><p>After 90 days, her case manager and resident therapist said she'd made progress, and released her to me for a 60 day trial home visit. She's been home for just over a month now. Does she still defy authority? Yes. Does she still try to use manipulation when she doesn't get what she wants? Yes. Does she still lie to me? Yes. Do I still have to provide shelter, food, medication, and the opportunity for an education to her until she's 18? Yes. It's what I agreed to do when I decided to become a parent. There are reasonable rules at my house, she follows the rules, or she can return to the custody of the JJA, go to a different placement - farther from home, and perhaps stay in their custody and/or supervison until her 22nd birthday. That's the way Kansas does it.</p><p></p><p>My advice -- contact an attorney familiar with the juvenile justice system in your state. See what your options are if he is picked up, or if he isn't picked up. You may have to look into emancipation. Your signature says he's gifted. Can he support himelf with a job?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="C.J., post: 67171, member: 1987"] My difficult child never left a letter the three times she ran. I called the police each time for HER safety. Doing this also told her that I cared enough about her to report her, as I had no way to know that she wasn't a victim of a crime...she liked to leave the house unlocked when she left. Is he on probation with you, or with a legal system? N* was on probation with the legal system, and when she ran, it was against her plan, so she was placed back in Juv. Det, and a court date was set to revoke her probation. At the hearing, the judge placed her in the custody of the Juvenile Justice Authority. Boy did that feel like "Parent Failure!" She was placed in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). After 90 days, her case manager and resident therapist said she'd made progress, and released her to me for a 60 day trial home visit. She's been home for just over a month now. Does she still defy authority? Yes. Does she still try to use manipulation when she doesn't get what she wants? Yes. Does she still lie to me? Yes. Do I still have to provide shelter, food, medication, and the opportunity for an education to her until she's 18? Yes. It's what I agreed to do when I decided to become a parent. There are reasonable rules at my house, she follows the rules, or she can return to the custody of the JJA, go to a different placement - farther from home, and perhaps stay in their custody and/or supervison until her 22nd birthday. That's the way Kansas does it. My advice -- contact an attorney familiar with the juvenile justice system in your state. See what your options are if he is picked up, or if he isn't picked up. You may have to look into emancipation. Your signature says he's gifted. Can he support himelf with a job? [/QUOTE]
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