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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 33736" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>Whoever the caller from the Group Home was, he had no business harrassing you until you broke down and provided information regarding traumatic events in your own past.</p><p></p><p>I think that what this man did was disgusting. I am sorry you were put in that position. </p><p></p><p>Each of us has vulnerabilities, times we were victimized, things we have survived ~ and each of us has the right to keep that information private.</p><p></p><p>The only time we need discuss any past issue is with our OWN therapist, and only at our OWN discretion.</p><p></p><p>It was both dangerous and unkind for this man to have pushed you into the emotional corner he did.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you did not give the phone number. I am sorry you were harrassed and felt threatened enough that you had to defend your own decision by relating the terribly hurtful traumas from your own past to this victimizing stranger.</p><p></p><p>It would have been enough, and you would have been totally correct, to have responded with something simple, like "I will not discuss this with you."</p><p></p><p>Then, say nothing.</p><p></p><p>Let the silence spin out until you hear what they are going to say next.</p><p></p><p>You have the right to remain silent ~ even if it IS "Dave" calling.</p><p></p><p>Are you seeing a therapist, or is there someone you could talk to about the traumatic memories this phone call has surely raised?</p><p></p><p>You did just fine, Carolanne.</p><p></p><p>Next time, you will know not to respond to "Dave" or to anyone from that facility until you have had time to think about how you want to frame your response.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry this has happened to you.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 33736, member: 3353"] Whoever the caller from the Group Home was, he had no business harrassing you until you broke down and provided information regarding traumatic events in your own past. I think that what this man did was disgusting. I am sorry you were put in that position. Each of us has vulnerabilities, times we were victimized, things we have survived ~ and each of us has the right to keep that information private. The only time we need discuss any past issue is with our OWN therapist, and only at our OWN discretion. It was both dangerous and unkind for this man to have pushed you into the emotional corner he did. I am glad you did not give the phone number. I am sorry you were harrassed and felt threatened enough that you had to defend your own decision by relating the terribly hurtful traumas from your own past to this victimizing stranger. It would have been enough, and you would have been totally correct, to have responded with something simple, like "I will not discuss this with you." Then, say nothing. Let the silence spin out until you hear what they are going to say next. You have the right to remain silent ~ even if it IS "Dave" calling. Are you seeing a therapist, or is there someone you could talk to about the traumatic memories this phone call has surely raised? You did just fine, Carolanne. Next time, you will know not to respond to "Dave" or to anyone from that facility until you have had time to think about how you want to frame your response. I am so sorry this has happened to you. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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