Hi all, I am new so I am still trying to figure out this new site and it all seems a bit confusing... However, I am very thankful to have found it. I am sitting here in tears cause our 13 year old son has been making the entire family miserable. There is not a day that goes by that he doesn't cause at least one or all of us to shed tears. He is angry, critical, hateful, constantly lies, hurts others physically, rude to adults and children, destructive at times... and get this... a straight A student. Not sure where to go or what to do. My husband and I have been married for 15 years and our son is the oldest of 4 children ages: 13, 11, 7, 20 mos. all boys and the youngest a girl. Our youngest and only daughter has extensive medical problems that has put a huge strain on our family as a whole. However, our oldest son adores her and she is the only one that he "likes" and the only one that can actually make him smile. Just mentioning that cause I don't think his bitterness is caused by her problems taking over the home in a way. In the past as a yonger child his behavior seemed very strong towards aspergers having 8 out of 10 symptoms. Our pediatrician never saw that but I did take him to a psychiatric and he unofficially diagnosis him with aspergers recommending a formal test with a psychologist which I never did. OVer time it does seem like he learned to adapt more to social norms. I don't know what to do or where to go for help. I feel embarrassed to call the pediatrician. I am not sure what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.