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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 675807" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Hi, and welcome. This is all just my opinion, of course, and I'm just another parent. Take what you can use of what we offer - you are the expert on your situation.</p><p> </p><p>You're either dealing with a drug use situation, or with a mental health situation, or both. If it's drugs... it makes it almost impossible to know for sure if mental health is a problem or not, as drug behavior can mimic many mental illnesses. First approach would be to drug test him - ideally a hair sample test or similar, that tracks usage over time, as some drugs are out of the system fairly quickly.</p><p> </p><p>If it isn't drugs, then it's probably mental health. Could be depression, bi-polar, or something on the schitzo spectrum, for starters. Depression in males can be a mask for anger. There may be all sorts of experiences in his growing up that you don't even know about. OR, depression can just be a hormone imbalance, without a specific cause. The others are illnesses, and require medical intervention, which may or may not be possible.</p><p> </p><p>For starters, I'd get rid of the locked door. If someone is unstable, the last thing you need is for him to be able to barricade himself in his room, and HIM deciding when he comes out and what he does. If he is going to live in your home, he has to be OPEN, and that means, no locked door on his room. I would also rule that there is no technology in his room. I know, I know... young people these days LIVE on technology. But... when it affects health, it's time to say no. Technology use must be limited to outside of the bedroom - and only during normal waking hours. Can you shut off your computer access at night? He'd still have his cell phone, though... some parents lock up ALL the family cell phones at night, not just the kids... as a way of controlling access.</p><p> </p><p>What kind of resources are available in your country? Do you have help phone lines around mental health, etc. that you could call for advice?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 675807, member: 11791"] Hi, and welcome. This is all just my opinion, of course, and I'm just another parent. Take what you can use of what we offer - you are the expert on your situation. You're either dealing with a drug use situation, or with a mental health situation, or both. If it's drugs... it makes it almost impossible to know for sure if mental health is a problem or not, as drug behavior can mimic many mental illnesses. First approach would be to drug test him - ideally a hair sample test or similar, that tracks usage over time, as some drugs are out of the system fairly quickly. If it isn't drugs, then it's probably mental health. Could be depression, bi-polar, or something on the schitzo spectrum, for starters. Depression in males can be a mask for anger. There may be all sorts of experiences in his growing up that you don't even know about. OR, depression can just be a hormone imbalance, without a specific cause. The others are illnesses, and require medical intervention, which may or may not be possible. For starters, I'd get rid of the locked door. If someone is unstable, the last thing you need is for him to be able to barricade himself in his room, and HIM deciding when he comes out and what he does. If he is going to live in your home, he has to be OPEN, and that means, no locked door on his room. I would also rule that there is no technology in his room. I know, I know... young people these days LIVE on technology. But... when it affects health, it's time to say no. Technology use must be limited to outside of the bedroom - and only during normal waking hours. Can you shut off your computer access at night? He'd still have his cell phone, though... some parents lock up ALL the family cell phones at night, not just the kids... as a way of controlling access. What kind of resources are available in your country? Do you have help phone lines around mental health, etc. that you could call for advice? [/QUOTE]
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