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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 688830" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>There is a saying in AA: Your drug of choice lays in the bottom of the glass. When I asked my daughter what that meant, she said drinking inevitably leads to using the drug of choice. I doubt your son will be able to drink but stay away from benzos. My daughter couldn't do it.</p><p></p><p>I have read many of your posts and thought to myself that they sound just like my daughter when she was your son's age.Your son doesn't sound like he really wants to be sober. I think that the therapist sees that in his lack of surrender.</p><p></p><p>We were told that an addict will not stay sober until they surrender. That means that they reach the point where they realize that their way doesn't work and they are willing to do what they are told to do whether they like it or not. Your son leaving IOP because there was only three people there was an excellent example. He decided it wasn't worth his time rather than staying and doing what he was supposed to do. That is not surrender.</p><p></p><p>My daughter has worked for three month periods successfully but has never been able to sustain sobriety. I think that your son has a long way to go. I worry about him moving to another sober house because there are so many shady ones with less rules that he might be drawn to.</p><p></p><p>That said, is there a possibility of switching to a different therapist? Sometimes the patient/therapist relationships just doesn't click.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 688830, member: 1967"] There is a saying in AA: Your drug of choice lays in the bottom of the glass. When I asked my daughter what that meant, she said drinking inevitably leads to using the drug of choice. I doubt your son will be able to drink but stay away from benzos. My daughter couldn't do it. I have read many of your posts and thought to myself that they sound just like my daughter when she was your son's age.Your son doesn't sound like he really wants to be sober. I think that the therapist sees that in his lack of surrender. We were told that an addict will not stay sober until they surrender. That means that they reach the point where they realize that their way doesn't work and they are willing to do what they are told to do whether they like it or not. Your son leaving IOP because there was only three people there was an excellent example. He decided it wasn't worth his time rather than staying and doing what he was supposed to do. That is not surrender. My daughter has worked for three month periods successfully but has never been able to sustain sobriety. I think that your son has a long way to go. I worry about him moving to another sober house because there are so many shady ones with less rules that he might be drawn to. That said, is there a possibility of switching to a different therapist? Sometimes the patient/therapist relationships just doesn't click. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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