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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 700675" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi Tmejia. So sorry you have to go through this all. It certainly sounds as if he should not live with you for everyone's good.</p><p></p><p>Please try to breathe-nothing has to be<strong> done</strong> right this minute. The urgent texts/calls can feel unbearable though. Many here warned me that when we set firm boundaries, the begging would ramp up and it did. Try for some distance. With our son we blocked texts and stopped answering phone, figuring he could leave voicemail if it was urgent. Maybe you could do one/both of these? In this way, I didn't see in print the drama. It's been months and we still rarely answer his calls. It is simply too upsetting for us. If he does leave voicemail, we will call him back to answer questions unless he's asking for $ or sounds impaired.</p><p> I am sure, like many here, you've told him repeatedly that you love him. He knows. You are not deserting him---You are saving you, your daughter and grands. You deserve better. He's made adult choices, our son did also and detaching seemed more difficult to me because he had "limitations". Mental illness or not, I realized he did know right from wrong. I was excusing him over and over. Give your son the respect of holding him accountable for his actions. </p><p> Hugs to you today, it's so hard. You can do this, you're worth it. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 700675, member: 20054"] Hi Tmejia. So sorry you have to go through this all. It certainly sounds as if he should not live with you for everyone's good. Please try to breathe-nothing has to be[B] done[/B] right this minute. The urgent texts/calls can feel unbearable though. Many here warned me that when we set firm boundaries, the begging would ramp up and it did. Try for some distance. With our son we blocked texts and stopped answering phone, figuring he could leave voicemail if it was urgent. Maybe you could do one/both of these? In this way, I didn't see in print the drama. It's been months and we still rarely answer his calls. It is simply too upsetting for us. If he does leave voicemail, we will call him back to answer questions unless he's asking for $ or sounds impaired. I am sure, like many here, you've told him repeatedly that you love him. He knows. You are not deserting him---You are saving you, your daughter and grands. You deserve better. He's made adult choices, our son did also and detaching seemed more difficult to me because he had "limitations". Mental illness or not, I realized he did know right from wrong. I was excusing him over and over. Give your son the respect of holding him accountable for his actions. Hugs to you today, it's so hard. You can do this, you're worth it. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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