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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 706502" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Wow. Great follow up post.</p><p></p><p>Seriously, and this hurts us all, myself included, we do love them much more than they love us. Drugs causes a lack of empathy. My once drug addicted daughter has told me,"Honestly, Mom, when you use drugs, that is all you think about. In some cases this also means pot, if one can't function without it."</p><p></p><p>There are other reasons for them to hurt us by not loving us as much as we them, and this is shown by their deeds. They can suffer from early insecure attachment due to infant/toddler neglect, orphanage life (I have one of those), mental illness that may play mind tricks with them and personality disorders such as borderline, narcicism, and antisocial.</p><p></p><p>We love more.</p><p></p><p>How sad to articulate it but we give them far more than they give us and in our way we are always there for them.</p><p></p><p>When I had a serious truck accident and it was very severe, my three normal kids rushed to my side. My disordered son did care, did called a lot for information, but he did not come. He is a few states away but..for something like this I would have flown in to be there for him if the situation had been reversed. My son has even money to have come but he chose not to come.</p><p></p><p>We do love them more than they love us. We hate it, but it's true. They don't have normal empathy and seem to gravitate to us for what we can offer them, not because they love and worry about us as we age.</p><p></p><p>Some will kill us making us worry.</p><p></p><p>We are in our 50s, 60s and 70s and they still seem oblivious to the fact that their behavior and disrespect could harm us. Are they with us when we are sick?</p><p></p><p>True love goes two ways but not with our adult kids who brought us here. They are different than normal adult children. That is partly why they dont.listen to us. They don't value us as we value them. And they are hateful in word and deed.</p><p></p><p>Very sad. I am sorry to all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 706502, member: 1550"] Wow. Great follow up post. Seriously, and this hurts us all, myself included, we do love them much more than they love us. Drugs causes a lack of empathy. My once drug addicted daughter has told me,"Honestly, Mom, when you use drugs, that is all you think about. In some cases this also means pot, if one can't function without it." There are other reasons for them to hurt us by not loving us as much as we them, and this is shown by their deeds. They can suffer from early insecure attachment due to infant/toddler neglect, orphanage life (I have one of those), mental illness that may play mind tricks with them and personality disorders such as borderline, narcicism, and antisocial. We love more. How sad to articulate it but we give them far more than they give us and in our way we are always there for them. When I had a serious truck accident and it was very severe, my three normal kids rushed to my side. My disordered son did care, did called a lot for information, but he did not come. He is a few states away but..for something like this I would have flown in to be there for him if the situation had been reversed. My son has even money to have come but he chose not to come. We do love them more than they love us. We hate it, but it's true. They don't have normal empathy and seem to gravitate to us for what we can offer them, not because they love and worry about us as we age. Some will kill us making us worry. We are in our 50s, 60s and 70s and they still seem oblivious to the fact that their behavior and disrespect could harm us. Are they with us when we are sick? True love goes two ways but not with our adult kids who brought us here. They are different than normal adult children. That is partly why they dont.listen to us. They don't value us as we value them. And they are hateful in word and deed. Very sad. I am sorry to all. [/QUOTE]
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