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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 706514" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>The reality is, what can you do? If this is his choice, and he is an adult, he is on his own. I think you are seeing that.</p><p></p><p>I think you have achieved a great deal in your time here on the forum. Seeing with clear eyes, recognizing the limits of your role and responsibility.</p><p></p><p>What has not yet happened is the understanding that this is not about you. Not a reflection on who you are, nor a reflection of your parenting. I struggle too with this.</p><p> Not one thing. The end of the story has not been written yet, by your son. By your own choices he is now having to take full responsibility. You are doing everything right, as I see it. If he chooses to self-destruct he will have to do it without your help.</p><p></p><p>The key change for you now is to work on your own sense of culpability and responsibility; and the shame you seem to feel for his behavior, that it somehow reflects on you.</p><p></p><p>It does not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 706514, member: 18958"] The reality is, what can you do? If this is his choice, and he is an adult, he is on his own. I think you are seeing that. I think you have achieved a great deal in your time here on the forum. Seeing with clear eyes, recognizing the limits of your role and responsibility. What has not yet happened is the understanding that this is not about you. Not a reflection on who you are, nor a reflection of your parenting. I struggle too with this. Not one thing. The end of the story has not been written yet, by your son. By your own choices he is now having to take full responsibility. You are doing everything right, as I see it. If he chooses to self-destruct he will have to do it without your help. The key change for you now is to work on your own sense of culpability and responsibility; and the shame you seem to feel for his behavior, that it somehow reflects on you. It does not. [/QUOTE]
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