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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 46740" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>My difficult children' bio dad was a giant difficult child as a child.</p><p></p><p>His difficult child-ness was extreme - he was one of the more violent types of difficult child's, he hit his mother in the face with a shovel, stuff like that.</p><p></p><p>His childhood memories are vague, at best, and very much depend on the day and the mood at the moment as to what he recalls. </p><p></p><p>Someone once told me that recollection of the bad diminishes when the bad stops happening. Doesn't mean you forget, it just doesn't remain in the front of your mind. In my own life, I can see that having happened. In DEX, I see that, also. In times when he, himself, was collected and together, he was more likely to talk about the better times of his childhood and he had a good relationship with his folks. When he was off the deep end himself, it was nothing but woe is me and hate them all.</p><p></p><p>I guess I hope that as an adult, my difficult child's realize that some of those bad memories were in response to their bad choices. And that will laregely depend on how "mature" the difficult child gets. </p><p></p><p>My 18 year old ran off Monday after I made him stop kicking a basketball at his baby brother. He has avoided me all week because of that incident. It hurts, but he has a choice to make...to see and accept that kicking a basketball at a small child isn't probably the best idea, or just be <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> cause he didn't get to play his way. And how he chooses to view the world, like his dad, will probably affect what he recalls about his past.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 46740, member: 1848"] My difficult children' bio dad was a giant difficult child as a child. His difficult child-ness was extreme - he was one of the more violent types of difficult child's, he hit his mother in the face with a shovel, stuff like that. His childhood memories are vague, at best, and very much depend on the day and the mood at the moment as to what he recalls. Someone once told me that recollection of the bad diminishes when the bad stops happening. Doesn't mean you forget, it just doesn't remain in the front of your mind. In my own life, I can see that having happened. In DEX, I see that, also. In times when he, himself, was collected and together, he was more likely to talk about the better times of his childhood and he had a good relationship with his folks. When he was off the deep end himself, it was nothing but woe is me and hate them all. I guess I hope that as an adult, my difficult child's realize that some of those bad memories were in response to their bad choices. And that will laregely depend on how "mature" the difficult child gets. My 18 year old ran off Monday after I made him stop kicking a basketball at his baby brother. He has avoided me all week because of that incident. It hurts, but he has a choice to make...to see and accept that kicking a basketball at a small child isn't probably the best idea, or just be :censored: cause he didn't get to play his way. And how he chooses to view the world, like his dad, will probably affect what he recalls about his past. [/QUOTE]
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