Yes, she's still a easy child, but she's spoiled too. Today, I kept her and my son out of school early for dental appointments. After that, both wanted to wait until lunch instead of walking into school in the middle of a class (embarassing). They go to two different schools. The schools are in opposite directions. My daughter wanted to go home and wait, but I had to get her and my son to school at exactly the same time, so I insisted she wait at her father's work and then he'd drive her. It was more practical. She pouted and said she wouldn't get out of the car and that she wanted to go home, not wait there. Since she is usually a easy child, she did not kick or scream or say much, but when we got to her dad's work, she wouldn't get out of the car. She wouldn't even do it for her dad, which is unusual. I opened the door and said, "N., I have to drive your brother to school. Get out. Now." Daughter slammed out of the car and said under her breath, "I hope you die." I was shocked to hear that, especially from her. She was already sitting in hub's truck so I opened the door and very calmly said, "That was a terrible thing to say to anybody. I'm an older mom. You'll get your wish one day." I shut the door. I was trembling. Hub was pretty useless, at least at the moment. I told him about it and he looked surprised, but didn't say anything to her, so I just drove home, trying to act normal for my son, who had been in his own world and not paying attention to the small drama going on outside the car. I called hub after I dropped L. off at school and he said, "I chewed her out good in the car. Blah, blah, blah." I said, "What is her punishment going to be?" He said, "Well, I'll take her to basketball practice tonight and then she's grounded until the weekend." Ok, that didn't work for me. My daughter LOVES basketball and is on a cage team that does tournaments, and she has a big one this weekend. It's out of town and will cost us $$$, which we don't have. I think she should be grounded the entire week, all basketball festivities included. Hub will go along with me, but I'm not sure if I should keep her from playing. I know she didn't mean what she said; still it was nasty and she is spoiled. Would you have punished your child? Remember, she has no disorder as an excuse. She doesn't "lose it." Or am I over-reacting since she obviously doesn't mean it, and we are close? Thoughts? Thank you all in advance. I didn't put this on "General" because she's really NOT a difficult child most of the time.