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I got this email in response to asking how the week was going because I was so proud of him for not having to have me be called and to go home. I asked if things were continuing to improve.... I still dont know if there are any good times from this because sounds like one period per day is not good and at least on one day another hour but there are six hours so what is happening all the rest of the time? I wrote another email asking.... I will tell you after this what I also asked and you guys will tell me I was too soft, but I need that so go ahead and let me have it.....
Here is my response:
I know it is not fair to ask to remove the swing from the class but they have a sensory room that it could be moved to and this is right in the class room.... and it was put there for him mostly anyway. This happens a lot with Q... he had a day when someone wanted him out of the swing and he didn't want to go so it became a power struggle and now what happened at that time is happening over and over... it is totally paired/stuck as a pattern.
It makes me a little crazy that 1. power struggles over these thigns become more important than focusing on the future, and academics....
2. that when a behavior is as predictable as this has been for a couple of weeks now...no one can see an obvious solution and instead it is allowed to become a more entrenched behavior because it is "practiced" every single day. And if you dont think he is not already thinking about it the second he is transitioning to that setting??? it is happening every day at the same time! LOL really? I think a fifth grader could figure this one out.
The biggest issue of course is that I already told the teacher I was not comfortable with psychologist being with Q. I am hedging on how to pursue this because I dont want them to further take things out on Q like they already do. I have no idea how this guy talks to Q but I suspect that there are ok moments and times that really cross the line. Lots of lectures and making him feel badly about himself and the grabbing, etc...totally not ok. Why the helll does he have to go to his office? Why not go to the private room they use for Q...that is suspicious if you ask me. I sent the emails to our home psychiatric and to the mn disability law person to help me get up the guts to do what I think I need to do. What would you guys do? Am I over reacting, under reacting, going at an ok cautious but aware speed????
I am bummed I even asked because I was in a fantasy hoping things were a little better, and maybe they are...but she didn't say anything about anything good.
Second period has been hard for him all week. Starts fine but then takes a break in the swing and then begins cursing at staff and students. Also, some throwing pencils at staff. Even came back after lunch to swing and immediately began swearing again. Mr. *psychologist* came down during second and 4th period to have Q go to his office. Not able to get back on track with the verbal, visual, and countdown reminders.
Q is talking to staff about being upset about his Rip-Stick. Talking about being mad at you with something about the rip-stick. Not sure of details, just letting you know.
Thanks,
*sp ed teacher*
Here is my response:
First email: ...talked about the rip stick and how he was upset I put it together though he asked me to as well as the scooter issue......then I said...
Any way to get a swing in his room? I have offered either or both of two swings from here several times. Maybe he needs the swing but is probably stuck into a pattern now so unless the swing disappears, it is going to be a constant battle....that would be my guess....swing is paired with those behaviors now. That's the only thing I can think of is unless there is an alternative swing for him. Even if it disappeared for a week. (tell them it broke and needs a repair or something?) during that week you can work on the social story for how much he can use the swing, like maybe only those times when other kids are not in the room and scheduled to the end of the day only or ??? I dont know your best times that have a natural transition like lunch or bus to get him out.
sounds like the swing is just too much of a trigger. Sorry.
then after I sent it I thought again.... I was so worried about what she said about the guy who has admitted to holding, grabbing and I have seen shove Q......so I sent email #2
So he has had those moments in 2nd and was it one day in fourth or every day? How is the rest of the time, is he continuing to work with you at some of the times, to do work with others? How is he doing in dape and speech? How are the Occupational Therapist (OT) things that she showed us at the meeting going... when do those things happen?
Do you see any improvement when he is not in those stuck moments?
What does Q do with *psychiatric*? Is the aide there to supervise them?
Thanks, D
I know it is not fair to ask to remove the swing from the class but they have a sensory room that it could be moved to and this is right in the class room.... and it was put there for him mostly anyway. This happens a lot with Q... he had a day when someone wanted him out of the swing and he didn't want to go so it became a power struggle and now what happened at that time is happening over and over... it is totally paired/stuck as a pattern.
It makes me a little crazy that 1. power struggles over these thigns become more important than focusing on the future, and academics....
2. that when a behavior is as predictable as this has been for a couple of weeks now...no one can see an obvious solution and instead it is allowed to become a more entrenched behavior because it is "practiced" every single day. And if you dont think he is not already thinking about it the second he is transitioning to that setting??? it is happening every day at the same time! LOL really? I think a fifth grader could figure this one out.
The biggest issue of course is that I already told the teacher I was not comfortable with psychologist being with Q. I am hedging on how to pursue this because I dont want them to further take things out on Q like they already do. I have no idea how this guy talks to Q but I suspect that there are ok moments and times that really cross the line. Lots of lectures and making him feel badly about himself and the grabbing, etc...totally not ok. Why the helll does he have to go to his office? Why not go to the private room they use for Q...that is suspicious if you ask me. I sent the emails to our home psychiatric and to the mn disability law person to help me get up the guts to do what I think I need to do. What would you guys do? Am I over reacting, under reacting, going at an ok cautious but aware speed????
I am bummed I even asked because I was in a fantasy hoping things were a little better, and maybe they are...but she didn't say anything about anything good.
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