I'm not sure what is going to happen next with difficult child. She pretty much does what she wants, took a knife to school got expelled for a year now she is smoking. husband found cigarette butts and 2 lighters in her purse we ask easy child if she was smoking and he said she was. When I ask her about it she didn't even try to deny it she just ask me how I found out. I ask her if her friends mom let her smoke and she said yes and then she tells me because her friends mom let her smoke she didn't know it was bad. She knows it is bad she is just trying to get herself out of trouble. She is going to be 12 on tuesday I'm just wondering if it is this bad now what is it going to be like in a few years? I know I don't have it as bad as some people but man I don't know how much more I can take.